Change your Mindset: Part 2 of the 5 regrets of the dying

And it was, you remember, we had a bit of a chuckle because I was thinking this is kind of a midlife crisis thing where I'm thinking about the second half of my life.

And just, just thinking about what are the goals I want to set for that, for our lives.

And, and, and, you know, this book is all, I've like read it before, but never, never to the level that I'm like engaging with it at the moment.

And just, I was just reading this and thinking about the book again this week and thinking how complicated we actually make our lives.

And that when you, you look at the five things that people regret at the end of their lives, life is actually meant to be so simple.

And we are, in most instances, our own worst enemies by putting the obstacles in front of ourselves and not experiencing the things or not experiencing life the way it was meant to be lived.

think that this book by bonnie where duck really pinpoints the top five things as we said last week that people regret at the end of their lives and i think it's a wonderful study as i shared with you because i think that it really gives us the opportunity to use it as a pre-warning to say to ourselves look if the research shows that these are the top things people regret it doesn't mean it has to be the things you regret at the end of your life It's kind of an awareness to say, well, how do I start living more consciously with these things so that this doesn't have to be a regret at the end of our lives? And number five is where we started last week.

And I think it's a very personal one to me.

And, you know, I was just thinking about it while I was waiting for...

For us to start and thinking, I'm sure you'll agree with me, Aubrey, isn't it tiring being stressed all the time, being unhappy all the time, being fearful all the time? To me, it's an exhausting state to be in.

And when you think of just being authentically happy and having joy, it's a completely different energy state.

You feel alive.

You feel present.

You're creative.

I mean, besides all the research that shows how good authentic happiness and just finding that joy and that fulfillment and peace in life is for your health.

for your marriage, for your work, for everything.

And it's not something people really talk about too much.

And it's not something that we really study.

You know, I think it was Martin Seligman.

He was like the founder of positive psychology and a psychology professor.

And he was looking for research on positive psychology.

And he found that for every, I think it's 15 to 20 studies he could find on depression.

he found only one on positive happiness on on the opposite of it so everybody was studying depression and unhappiness and fear and all of the negative emotions but nobody was really studying positive psychology happiness what what is that what does it really mean you know last week we spoke about the difference between happiness and joy i'm talking about uh you know and i just want to put that out there again to me the difference is the happiness The way we understand it and the way most people understand it, happiness is something that you find externally.

You know, if you cannot find the true joy, then you need someone outside of you to make you happy.

You need a nice house, a nice car, money in the bank, all these things.