#26 | How to Keep Going When Life Feels Heavy

And what I mean by that is she came in and asked me, and the whole conversation was about this basically, how do you show up online and to life? Really online, but I'm gonna apply this to life as well, 'cause I'm aware that a lot of you might not be online or have a social media presence, and that is beautiful and perfect as well.

But the question to me was how do you show up online when you do navigate something really hard behind the scenes and without people necessarily knowing what that was? And she said and reflected to me, and this is something that I felt very, like, grateful to receive and hear because I feel often, side note already, [laughs] we don't tell people enough what we think of them or how we see them because we just forget or we think that they know or we think that they have that reflection of themselves as well.

But at the end of the day, you will never see yourself in the light that other people see you in for varying reasons.

And they can see really beautiful parts of you or your story or how you show up that is just the norm to you or it's nothing that you even think about because it's just how you are and how you show up.

And without actually being told that or given that reflection, you could miss that point of just acknowledging, you know, how it is that you do show up or what it is that is such a beautiful strength of yours.

And so I really think before we even get into the conversation, remembering how important it is to actually tell people how we feel or what we think about them, tell people what we think, you know, they're doing that's amazing, tell people what inspired us about that thing that they shared or that thing that they did or how they carry themselves, whatever it might be.

There is just so much beauty in that for both you as the person sharing that with someone, uh, because you get to make them feel, you know, amazing and what a good feeling that is, but then also that is so powerful for someone else to see themselves in a light that they would otherwise be blind to.

So yeah, that's kinda where this conversation came from, 'cause I never would have really thought about this, um, otherwise.

And the thing that she said to me that I'll circle back on was, you know, with online, and she knows snippets of my story and what I navigate behind the scenes, and probably not the full picture either.

But she said, "I know what you're going through," to the extent to which I've shared with her.

Um, and still when you show up online, you show up every day and, and you're posting consistently, you're building your business, you're, you know, working here at JT.

You are so front facing in such a light, but in the same breath you're also incredibly private about what it is that you do navigate behind the scenes.

Um, but in the same breath, you still are so real about that in a way that is so gracious.

And that was just such a compliment for me because I always want to be so real on my platforms, and I have been for as long as I can remember.

But I also am such a firm believer that not everything needs to nor should be shared, especially on the internet, and that you can actually hold the duality of, you know, pursuing your goals and showing up and creating content and, you know, being of positive l- energy and sharing a good message and doing whatever whilst simultaneously navigating the hardest season of your life in private and not needing to make everything about that thing or not needing to share everything and every piece of detail.

Because at the end of the day, not everyone deserves access to your life and, and especially to your privacy, and this is something that I am such a firm believer on and I really...

You know, everyone can have their own opinion on, on this and how you choose to show up to your life or what you choose to share is absolutely your own.

But, you know, and this has evolved for me even over the years.

But it's like I am just so big on the fact that my social media serves such a good purpose in terms of connection, sharing the things that I love, hopefully providing value to people through what I share.

Um, building, you know, my work and doing whatever else, but it's not the place where I'm going to share every single detail of my private life, nor do I think it should ever be.

Because at the end of the day, if we are sharing every single inch of our life, nothing is ever ours, and especially when other people are concerned in what it is that you're sharing.

And I think that is something that we can probably do a little bit better of online when it comes to just actually considering what I'm sharing.

Like, how does this go further beyond me? Like, are other people concerned? Am I sharing other people's lives or things that they don't want online? Am I actually being, you know, conscious of the fact that people do want and care about their privacy? And, you know, that is me, right? Like, that is me and how I share.

So I don't know if that's making sense.

But basically, the point here is you can actually share every single day.