#24 | Shellee Rose - Breaking Generational Trauma & Building the Life She Was Never Given

But I think that that is life, right? And I think the thing that I...

believe is that in like life is never linear like you know we both know that it's there's it's and I don't believe it's ever easy either because choose your heart and it's like there is always you take the easy path you're going to have to face the heart in some way or another whereas if you choose the heart then you know you're going to inevitably have more ease um But I do think that, yeah, like life is governed by your choices at the end of the day.

And you can either see life is happening to you or life happening for you.

And it's like the cause and effect, right? And...

Like, nothing changes, you know? Like, it's like if you live in a victim...

Like, if you live your life as a victim, you're just going to stay a victim.

If you live your life knowing that shit was hard and that, you know, things were unfair and things were cruel and that hurt and that's painful and that's all other things, like, it's like one thing I'd do... you know, I do want to preface just obviously kind of speaking to the hard that I have experienced and how I'm grateful for that.

That's not from a toxic positivity lens of like me not acknowledging that that was fucked because there's been so much grief and there's been so much pain and there's been so much work and healing that I've had to do in order to get to a point now where I I'm okay with not having family members in my life and I'm okay with having a body that doesn't function normally and having to be on infusions every eight weeks.

I'm okay with all of those big life things that have had a significant impact on me as a human.

But I also am... like not naive or not, I wouldn't even say it's naive, but I'm like, I also feel like I've got two ways to look at it.

And it's like, if I continue to look at like, fuck, that was hard.

Fuck, that is not fair.

You know, like why me? Well, then I'm never going to get to where I want to be.

And I'm never going to have the things that I want to have.

If I can look at it and go, you know what? Like, yeah, that was shit.

That was unfair.

But equally, I'm still the creator.

I still get to choose.

I still get to create what's right in front of me and do the things that are going to yield a return that supports what I'm wanting to build.

Then...

Like that's on me.

Yeah.

You know, and I think that, yeah, like it's so easy for people.

It's so easy for people to look outside of themselves.

And it's so easy to put blame on everyone.