Why does Divorce hurt so much?... Let's talk to Vaneetha Risner...

Yeah.

So

a little bit about myself.

I live in the States.

I live in North Carolina.

And I honestly did not want to write this book.

So I'll start with my story.

But I didn't want to write it because I realized I still was carrying shame from divorce.

So divorce brings this lingering shame that... happens when it occurs and then sort of traces through your life.

It was years ago that I got divorced, but I met my ex-husband, but I'll just say my husband for the purposes of this.

So I met my husband in... graduate school.

We were in business school together and had lots in common, got married between our first and second year.

So it's two years here in the States and got married then and really thought, wow, this is perfect.

We have similar interests.

This is going to go really well.

And it did for a while.

It went really well.

But we...

Went through a lot early on in our marriage.

We had an infant son who died because a doctor made a mistake with his care.

So that was really hard for us to kind of walk through just dealing with grief differently, but we walked through that.

And then I was diagnosed with post-polio syndrome.

Now, I'm guessing most of your listeners don't know what that is.

I did not know what it was myself until I was diagnosed.

But I had polio as a child, as an infant, actually, was a quadriplegic, but then had multiple surgeries, all kinds of things, and led a really normal life.