Relational Life Therapy Skills That Turn Conflict Into Connection #153

You can read every relationship book on your shelf and still get blindsided the moment someone you love moves closer, moves in, or simply hits the exact nerve you thought you already healed. That’s why we wanted this candid conversation with Nancy Pickard, author and certified relational life therapy coach trained in Terry Real’s work. We talk about why triggers are not just drama, they are data, and how the “adaptive child” takes over your brain in conflict unless you learn the skills to come back to your wise adult self.  We get practical about what actually derails couples: the five losing strategies and how they show up in everyday fights. We also unpack anxious attachment and avoidant attachment, including how even a secure person can start to feel anxious when their partner is walled off. Nancy explains boundaries in a way you can use immediately, including the difference between a containing boundary (so you don’t dump every thought) and a protective boundary (so you don’t absorb everything that’s thrown at you).  We also go deeper than conflict management. Nancy shares a framework for the five types of intimacy and why expecting one partner to meet every need can quietly create resentment and codependence. You’ll hear concrete communication tools used in relationship coaching and couples therapy. If you’re dating, rebuilding trust, or trying to stop repeating the same patterns, this one will give you language and next steps. Subscribe for more conversations like this, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth\_franktalk Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara\_Schoon\_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077