Welcome to Spiritually Fit Today with Arnie Cole. In this episode Arnie interviews Jason Hietbrink about the four words that set him free as a husband and father: “you are not adequate.” They center the conversation on John 15:4–5—abiding in Christ rather than performing from fear—examining how contentment, motive, and ordered priorities reshape marriage, parenting, and leadership. Jason contrasts two common patterns in marriage and urges presence and love over fixing or proving.
4 R action guide
\- Read: John 15:4–5
\- Reflect: Ask: Where am I trying to prove my adequacy? How would my choices change if I were motivated by love, not fear?
\- Respond: Today, schedule one focused 15-minute conversation with your spouse or a close friend—listen without fixing, defend, or offering solutions; simply be present.
\- Reveal: Share John 15:4–5 with one person and explain one specific way you’ll practice abiding this week, then follow through.
Contact: arnie.cole@bttb.org
Keywords: spiritual fitness, abide in Christ, John 15:4-5, Christian podcast, Arnie Cole, Jason Hietbrink, marriage, spiritual growth, Christian leadership, faith and adequacy
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