The true self: How to feel fulfilled in life?

When we were born, we were absolutely fine.

We were absolutely perfect.

We were in a perfect body, perfect shape.

You know, everything was just perfect.

We were whole.

We were complete.

But we didn't know.

And we started learning through our parents, our relatives, our family, school, access to TV or, you know, movies.

Everything that we could hear, see and experience, we were learning.

It was forming the beliefs.

It was developing the neurological patterns.

So what happens externally, how we interpret it, how we feel that event emotionally, how we re- you know, our brain memorizes all this memory, but then our subconscious stores all the emotional memory.

And somehow, over time, we created an identity.

So if I give a really, like, specific example, there are four roles apparently we take as a child.

One is smart, who's really good in education.

This is to get attention from parents and people around us, yeah? So I was really-- I was-- I took the smart role.

So there are four roles.

One is smart, where you are intelligent, you study hard, and you get good marks, and people around you appreciate you or, you know, praise you for your achievement.

The second one is carer.

So we look after the family.

You do house chores, do the house, you know, the shopping, like buying bread and butter and things like that.

The third one is ill.

So there is one child who's always having tummy hurt or headache or something to grab parents' attention.

And the fourth role is rebellious.

So when all the three roles are taken by the siblings, this fourth child, mostly the youngest child, is rebellious.