Words Matter When You Talk About Adoption
Sep 25, 2026 · 59 min · 11 segments
Send us Fan Mail We talk about the questions people ask when they find out we’re adopted and why certain words can land as judgment, stigma, or…
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Sep 25, 2026 · 59 min · 11 segments
Send us Fan Mail We talk about the questions people ask when they find out we’re adopted and why certain words can land as judgment, stigma, or…
in thinking about what we've been doing and the podcast has taken some, some turns in shape and it's been molded in different ways.
I started to reflect on, okay, what is the common thread and what happens? And you know, I can't speak for you, but it'll come out today in our episode.
But I wanted to do something that I'm sure every adoptee has heard, you know.
And the question is, you know, are people trying to be insensitive? Are people trying to offend us? The type of questions that come up when people find out.
that you're a doctor.
Yeah.
And I will tell you, and I'm not talking about, you know, the drunk aunt that's spilling the beans that just got the loose lips.
I ain't talking about her.
I'm just talking about like people in your everyday walk because I've had people say different things and you can tell after they say it based on your response or after they ask you that they're like, oh, maybe I shouldn't have said that.
Right.
But then you have some that truly have no clue.
No clue.
And they ask the question.
They put it out there.
And they're just curious.
Yeah.
Just curious.
Just curious.
But it's always a way to say it.
Always a way to say it.
You know, so our segment today is, you know, the questions that people ask adoptees.
Why people ask these questions.
Why? And again, I'm going to start off just with, and I started with, you know, Do you think people are really trying to offend us or like it's malice behind it? Or is it a ignorance? And when I say ignorance, because they just don't know.
I think it's maybe twofold.
Okay.
in thinking about what we've been doing and the podcast has taken some, some turns in shape and it's been molded in different ways.
I started to reflect on, okay, what is the common thread and what happens? And you know, I can't speak for you, but it'll come out today in our episode.
But I wanted to do something that I'm sure every adoptee has heard, you know.
And the question is, you know, are people trying to be insensitive? Are people trying to offend us? The type of questions that come up when people find out.
that you're a doctor.
Yeah.
And I will tell you, and I'm not talking about, you know, the drunk aunt that's spilling the beans that just got the loose lips.
I ain't talking about her.
I'm just talking about like people in your everyday walk because I've had people say different things and you can tell after they say it based on your response or after they ask you that they're like, oh, maybe I shouldn't have said that.
Right.
But then you have some that truly have no clue.
No clue.
And they ask the question.
They put it out there.
And they're just curious.
Yeah.
Just curious.
Just curious.
But it's always a way to say it.
Always a way to say it.
You know, so our segment today is, you know, the questions that people ask adoptees.
Why people ask these questions.
Why? And again, I'm going to start off just with, and I started with, you know, Do you think people are really trying to offend us or like it's malice behind it? Or is it a ignorance? And when I say ignorance, because they just don't know.
I think it's maybe twofold.
Okay.
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