#92-How Oasis Aqualounge changes lives | 1:1 with Co-Owner Fatima Mechtab · Sex and Swinging with TorontoUnicorn · Radar

Finding Comfort and Community0:37 – 4:13

Fatima MechtabGuest

0:37

But my goodness, this club.

Fatima MechtabGuest

0:39

This club has changed

Toronto UnicornHost

0:40

lives, and you know it.

Toronto UnicornHost

0:41

You know, this is something you must see all the time.

Toronto UnicornHost

0:44

Maybe you're even desensitized to the impact you have on a nightly basis, right? But for me, when I was new here and I came here, I had never been comfortable being undressed in front of anybody.

Toronto UnicornHost

0:56

And to give this place the credit, within about an hour of being here, I was like, okay, I'm gonna take my bra off, right? And ever since then, I never regretted those like inching out of my comfort zones.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:11

It was like, all of it was just, this place makes you feel safe, accepted, you know, no judgment, all that, especially I'm a curvy size girl.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:19

I would have never been in a bathing suit, let alone naked in front of people.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:25

And this club, I mean, I just, I just modeled it on bikini top and like, it was just, it was great.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:29

I love that though.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:30

I

Fatima MechtabGuest

1:30

love that

Toronto UnicornHost

1:31

people come here feeling comfortable

Fatima MechtabGuest

1:32

or at getting to a point where they feel comfortable with their bodies and being able to shed the layers and be comfortable in their skin and see other people doing the same.

Fatima MechtabGuest

1:43

And I think that's just really one of the most inspiring things about Oasis, among many other

Toronto UnicornHost

1:46

things.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:47

But if you told me, oh, go to a sex club to feel better about your body, I didn't see the one plus one equals two, right? Like, this was the unexpected surprise of, oh my God, you're gonna feel more comfortable as a human, and it translates outside of the walls of this

Fatima MechtabGuest

2:00

club.

Fatima MechtabGuest

2:00

100%.

Fatima MechtabGuest

2:00

And yeah, and I think that when you are comfortable with your own body and comfortable in your skin, you're just going to have better sex.

Toronto UnicornHost

2:07

oh my gosh yeah like even my guy now during sex sometimes he grabs my stomach and like uses it as leverage I'm like whatever

Fatima MechtabGuest

2:14

works baby whatever works but back in the day I would have been

Toronto UnicornHost

2:17

mortified so this club has brought me my best friends in the lifestyle like you know just just somebody across the pool that you shoot the shit with and get to know and you know somebody that also thinks cracking jokes over over dinner is funny instead of frowned upon we all know you know vanilla world folks

Fatima MechtabGuest

2:34

yeah

Toronto UnicornHost

2:34

so this place is great for finding yourself sexual like sexual wise but my goodness you find your tribe of people 100 you find people that show you the ropes one of the okay i was so new and you're so good for

Finding Comfort and Community0:37 – 4:13

Fatima MechtabGuest

0:37

But my goodness, this club.

Fatima MechtabGuest

0:39

This club has changed

Toronto UnicornHost

0:40

lives, and you know it.

Toronto UnicornHost

0:41

You know, this is something you must see all the time.

Toronto UnicornHost

0:44

Maybe you're even desensitized to the impact you have on a nightly basis, right? But for me, when I was new here and I came here, I had never been comfortable being undressed in front of anybody.

Toronto UnicornHost

0:56

And to give this place the credit, within about an hour of being here, I was like, okay, I'm gonna take my bra off, right? And ever since then, I never regretted those like inching out of my comfort zones.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:11

It was like, all of it was just, this place makes you feel safe, accepted, you know, no judgment, all that, especially I'm a curvy size girl.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:19

I would have never been in a bathing suit, let alone naked in front of people.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:25

And this club, I mean, I just, I just modeled it on bikini top and like, it was just, it was great.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:29

I love that though.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:30

I

Fatima MechtabGuest

1:30

love that

Toronto UnicornHost

1:31

people come here feeling comfortable

Fatima MechtabGuest

1:32

or at getting to a point where they feel comfortable with their bodies and being able to shed the layers and be comfortable in their skin and see other people doing the same.

Fatima MechtabGuest

1:43

And I think that's just really one of the most inspiring things about Oasis, among many other

Toronto UnicornHost

1:46

things.

Toronto UnicornHost

1:47

But if you told me, oh, go to a sex club to feel better about your body, I didn't see the one plus one equals two, right? Like, this was the unexpected surprise of, oh my God, you're gonna feel more comfortable as a human, and it translates outside of the walls of this

Fatima MechtabGuest

2:00

club.

Fatima MechtabGuest

2:00

100%.

Fatima MechtabGuest

2:00

And yeah, and I think that when you are comfortable with your own body and comfortable in your skin, you're just going to have better sex.

Toronto UnicornHost

2:07

oh my gosh yeah like even my guy now during sex sometimes he grabs my stomach and like uses it as leverage I'm like whatever

Fatima MechtabGuest

2:14

works baby whatever works but back in the day I would have been

Toronto UnicornHost

2:17

mortified so this club has brought me my best friends in the lifestyle like you know just just somebody across the pool that you shoot the shit with and get to know and you know somebody that also thinks cracking jokes over over dinner is funny instead of frowned upon we all know you know vanilla world folks

Fatima MechtabGuest

2:34

yeah

Toronto UnicornHost

2:34

so this place is great for finding yourself sexual like sexual wise but my goodness you find your tribe of people 100 you find people that show you the ropes one of the okay i was so new and you're so good for