#91-“I don’t even recognize that person”: DTF Tanya two years after her first sex club experience

I'm going to go to this place, this sex club that, you know, I might I might feel nervous.

I might even have a nervous tummy.

But you're going to go anyways.

And I think two years later, I have to ask, are you are you ever nervous now when you go to Oasis?

Uh, no, I actually not.

Um, interestingly, uh, I'm not nervous.

Um, I don't think I, I mean, the first time I went, I don't know if I was nervous.

It was like, it was an unknown.

I didn't know like the lay of the land.

And then that's how I ended up finding you.

I needed to have a little bit of comfort of what was I actually walking into just, you know? Um, and so like the, the tour of Oasis, just so that I could have some type of footing, um, of what was what I was actually going to see not that I was concerned about what I was going to see but like just how I was going to navigate everything if I was going to be there on my own but now I think it was a couple a couple visits ago that we actually had and I was on obviously it was on a Tuesday night and I remember sitting there and I was sitting beside someone and we were you know chatting whatever and I was not in the red room but the one to the to the left and I I looked around at the people guys in front of me and what I was watching because I actually have evolved into I'd like to be a warrior now and as well as being an exhibitionist but I remember looking out in the crowd going know him know him And then I looked out into the, and I sat there for a moment.

I was like, oh, wow.

But all good experiences, not bad.

It was just interesting to see so many people.

people, guys that I had been with or I've talked to, or, you know, over the last two years and we still see each other and it's just, and it's very comforting.

It's very, it's very, it's like, we just, we just know each other and, and, and this is just what I, what I'm doing.

Right.

Yeah.

Familiar dick, familiar faces.

Yeah.

Familiar face, you know, and yeah, it's, and then, and then to meet new guys that are there and, you know, and I still find it exciting to, and I ask the question, is this your first time here? If I'm meeting someone, you know, and cause that's a good opening, a good icebreaker, right? You know, and I like doing that.

I've learned that from you, you know, is to have that conversation.

Whereas probably two years plus before, I mean, I can do that, but just to carry that conversation and initiate it was not something that I did very confidently I don't think but maybe I was I don't know

it builds your social skills absolutely especially when you become just really real about who you are around people like the small talk isn't isn't isn't superficial the small talk is still meaningful talk and I think uh that's also what I really like is I you know instead of asking somebody you know what you know what the weather's like you're like so you know what fantasy have you fulfilled lately that's an interesting way to connect to people as well

yeah you're being who you are, you're being your real self.