Breaking the Superman Complex: Vulnerability and Success

versus just go in there and push them to the side and fix everything and then walk away and they don't have any ownership over the outcome.

So you've said that the do good aspect is putting others first.

When

do you

come first?

Well, that's the be good.

The be good really, I'm a structural engineer, so I love stability.

You're not stable when you just stand a column up.

It can fall over.

You're not stable when you lean two things together, it can fall over.

It's the thirds.

The first time you have a stable structure is the three of them, be good, do good, and evolve.

Any of those three can develop cracks and weaknesses.

And if any one of them falls, it'll affect all of them.

You can't go out and do good if you're falling apart.

So I just like to empower people to look at all of them as a collective structure and give them the care they need because they work together and they build this foundation that is so strong that then you can strive for excellence in so many areas of your life.

So then if there's an order and maybe there isn't, can they all be dealt with at the same time or be good must come first before you can do good and then you're able to evolve?

Yeah, I don't know if there's necessarily an order as much as that they need to be a certain level of strength or stability to be able to move to any of the others, right? Because it is a collective.

So if I'm looking at the structure, this foundation, they're all in perfect symmetry.

They're all holding each other up.

It's not about starting with one or the other.

It's about giving them all the care and support they need.

At any given point in your life or your day or your month, right? You could be really struggling personally.

You could be giving everything to your family.

Parents do this all the time, right? It's probably the easiest one for them to appreciate.

versus just go in there and push them to the side and fix everything and then walk away and they don't have any ownership over the outcome.

So you've said that the do good aspect is putting others first.

When

do you

come first?

Well, that's the be good.

The be good really, I'm a structural engineer, so I love stability.

You're not stable when you just stand a column up.

It can fall over.

You're not stable when you lean two things together, it can fall over.

It's the thirds.

The first time you have a stable structure is the three of them, be good, do good, and evolve.

Any of those three can develop cracks and weaknesses.

And if any one of them falls, it'll affect all of them.

You can't go out and do good if you're falling apart.

So I just like to empower people to look at all of them as a collective structure and give them the care they need because they work together and they build this foundation that is so strong that then you can strive for excellence in so many areas of your life.

So then if there's an order and maybe there isn't, can they all be dealt with at the same time or be good must come first before you can do good and then you're able to evolve?

Yeah, I don't know if there's necessarily an order as much as that they need to be a certain level of strength or stability to be able to move to any of the others, right? Because it is a collective.

So if I'm looking at the structure, this foundation, they're all in perfect symmetry.

They're all holding each other up.

It's not about starting with one or the other.

It's about giving them all the care and support they need.

At any given point in your life or your day or your month, right? You could be really struggling personally.

You could be giving everything to your family.

Parents do this all the time, right? It's probably the easiest one for them to appreciate.