The Mattering Effect: Success and Mattering Are Not the Same Thing - John R. Miles

John R. Miles graduated from the Naval Academy and spent years supporting special operations teams, including SEAL units, on ships and in high-risk missions. He later ran technology teams at Dell and Lowe's, and he now writes books and hosts the Passionstruck podcast. Charles talks with him about what he learned leading people where mistakes cost lives and where they only cost money. When John started at Lowe's, the team he inherited ranked last in the company's employee survey. He explains what he found when he talked to the people on that team, why they had stopped speaking up, and the steps he took to turn it around. He also shares the daily habits that keep him steady and why he stopped drinking three years ago. You'll hear how he thinks about autonomy, how to rebuild trust when people are afraid to bring you bad news, why he compares leadership to gardening, and the six signals that show whether people feel they matter at work. **KEY TAKEAWAYS:** \- Why a leader who controls every move becomes the bottleneck, and how clear boundaries let capable people do the work \- How to earn trust in a new role by listening to the people closest to the work before you change anything \- Why people who fear blame hide problems, and how rewarding early bad news saves time and money \- How meaning, autonomy, trust, time, energy, and reciprocity show whether your team feels they matter \- Why a daily habit of checking your actions against your values keeps you steady under pressure **KEY POINTS:** 00:20 - From the Navy to Fortune 50 tech: John explains how burning out as a high performer changed what he thinks drives real results. 02:40 - Leading special operations teams: John shares what he learned supporting SEAL units, and why a leader can never become the bottleneck. 06:01 - Earning trust on a Navy ship: John describes walking onto a ship with broken morale and why he volunteered for any job that needed doing. 13:10 - Self-regulation comes first: John walks through his daily routine of gratitude, mindfulness, exercise, and setting intentions. 16:29 - Tying gratitude to your values: John explains how checking your daily actions against your core values shows you where you fall short. 22:11 - Taking alcohol off the table: John talks about quitting, what it did for his sleep and energy, and why Charles says vulnerability takes strength. 25:50 - Walking into the lowest-ranked team at Lowe's: John shares the call that told him his team finished last in employee engagement. 29:17 - Systemic unmattering: John explains why people stop speaking up after they learn that nothing changes. 33:24 - Gardener leadership: John describes why he sees leadership as creating the right conditions instead of pulling on people. 37:56 - Autonomy means authorship with guardrails: John explains how training the whole team on one shared process gave them a common language. 44:04 - The six signals of mattering: Meaning, autonomy, trust, time, energy, and reciprocity. 46:22 - How to rebuild trust: John explains why hiding bad news leads to bad decisions, and what he did to make it safe to tell the truth. 52:29 - Time as a signal: John explains how a calendar full of meetings tells people what you really value, and how he cut the extra governance. 56:58 - Reciprocity: John shares how he gave his team training, promotions, and visibility, and why he got to know them outside of work. 01:03:48 - What becomes more human in the age of AI: John explains why companies should ask what machines free people up to do, instead of which jobs to cut.