Parenting Tips: Young Dad Podcast
Aug 24, 2026 · 46 min · 10 segments
This episode helps dads understand why they keep reacting the same way — and how to change it without shame or self-hatred. In this conversation, Jey Young and Duncan Rich explore the challenges…
Duncan RichGuestJayHostThis is one of those conversations that explains why so many dads are doing their best and still feel like something's off.
Duncan, when dads come to you saying, I just need to be more patient, what's usually actually going on underneath?
What's usually going on underneath in my experience is that they're overwhelmed and they want to be more patient.
But they're, and they're finding that most of the time, maybe they're able to do that.
But then once things turn a certain corner, that it's almost like those skills are, you know, they're like not available anymore.
from, you know, in my experience, what I see a lot is we're just overwhelmed and we don't have a lot of guidance.
We don't have a lot of, um, you know, coaching or, um, tools, skills that really work and help us to show up, you know, regulated, calm, um, with that kind of, um, know fatherly air when uh when things really get when the stress really hits when things sort of get really pushed beyond what is comfortable
yeah 100 and it and it can be really easy to get there right like it's it's not a hard place to get to for most men but it's like we try at the same time like we try to do what what we can handle like within reason And then it just gets to a point to where it's like nothing's moving, nothing's shaking, nothing's, you know, changing at all around me.
And so now the body's like, okay, well, we've tried to wait this out, be patient for whatever.
But now it's just at a point to where now it's just pop.
Right.
We have a vision of how we want to conduct ourselves and, you know, how we want to think of ourselves and how we probably are most of the time.
And without getting too deep into it, there's a really, really ancient part of the nervous system that governs how we respond to stress.
This is one of those conversations that explains why so many dads are doing their best and still feel like something's off.
Duncan, when dads come to you saying, I just need to be more patient, what's usually actually going on underneath?
What's usually going on underneath in my experience is that they're overwhelmed and they want to be more patient.
But they're, and they're finding that most of the time, maybe they're able to do that.
But then once things turn a certain corner, that it's almost like those skills are, you know, they're like not available anymore.
from, you know, in my experience, what I see a lot is we're just overwhelmed and we don't have a lot of guidance.
We don't have a lot of, um, you know, coaching or, um, tools, skills that really work and help us to show up, you know, regulated, calm, um, with that kind of, um, know fatherly air when uh when things really get when the stress really hits when things sort of get really pushed beyond what is comfortable
yeah 100 and it and it can be really easy to get there right like it's it's not a hard place to get to for most men but it's like we try at the same time like we try to do what what we can handle like within reason And then it just gets to a point to where it's like nothing's moving, nothing's shaking, nothing's, you know, changing at all around me.
And so now the body's like, okay, well, we've tried to wait this out, be patient for whatever.
But now it's just at a point to where now it's just pop.
Right.
We have a vision of how we want to conduct ourselves and, you know, how we want to think of ourselves and how we probably are most of the time.
And without getting too deep into it, there's a really, really ancient part of the nervous system that governs how we respond to stress.
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