School “avoidance”: Part 2 - The impact on families and what we can do about it

Part two of our deep dive into EBSA for neurodivergent children is essential listening for anyone navigating the school avoidance minefield as a parent or carer of a neurodivergent child - whether they are autistic, ADHD, PDA profile, or any combination of the above. Heidi Mavir returns to offer her advice as someone who has lived every corner of this experience - not only in her own life, but also through her advocacy work with thousands of families affected by barriers to attendance. In this episode, we dig into the real-world impact - the emotional, financial and logistical strain it places on families. We also look at practical things parents can actually do if their child is experiencing barriers to attendance - from how absences should be coded at school, to what the Children's Wellbeing Bill means for home education rights, to when a part-time timetable might help and when it's just a sticking plaster. If you're wrestling with EBSA daily and you’re looking for advice that's rooted in lived experience, this is the episode for you.   CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS (ESTIMATED) 00:01:28 - Meet The Guest 00:03:25 - Topic of the Week: Barriers to Attendance Part 2 00:03:59 - Parental Blame and Being Doubted by School Professionals 00:09:32 - Attendance Targets, Fines, and Rewarding Full Attendance 00:13:23 - "Make Home Less Appealing" and Other Unhelpful Advice 00:17:49 - Why Exposure Therapy Doesn't Work for EBSA 00:21:35 - The Emotional, Financial and Relational Impact on Parents 00:35:34 - What You Can Actually Do: Practical Advice for Families 00:53:15 - Home Education, Deregistering and the Children's Wellbeing Bill 01:11:46 - EOTAS and When School Just Isn't the Right Shape 01:15:07 - It's Not All Rubbish: Specialist Settings and What Works 01:20:05 - Neurodiversity Champions 01:25:19 - Tiny Epic Wins 01:31:10 - What the Flip! LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE Neuroshambles mailing list sign-up (with free PDF of all What the Flip moments from all 59 episodes) - https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/2414072/190019322933937234/share Your Child Is Not Broken book, Heidi Mavir - https://www.heidimavir.com/i-wrote-a-book Your Child Is Not Broken free Facebook community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/eotasmatters Heidi Mavir: The Marble run - https://www.heidimavir.com/the-marble-run Children’s Wellbeing and Schools Act - https://bills.parliament.uk/bills/3909 Section 19 of Children and Families Act - https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2014/6/section/19 EOTAS, EOTIS, EOTISC - https://www.ipsea.org.uk/home-education-and-education-otherwise Not Fine in School - https://www.notfineinschool.co.uk Define Fine - https://www.definefine.org.uk/ SEND Advocacy Limited (Alice) - https://www.sendadvocacy.com/ Audhdacious Humans - https://www.audhdacious.com/ Make and Create Club - https://www.audhdacious.com/make-and-create/club/ Eliza Fricker and "Can't Not Won't" - https://amzn.eu/d/0bMMrrwa   📣 CONTACT NEUROSHAMBLES 🌐 Website: www.neuroshambles.com 📧 Email: [hello@neuroshambles.com](mailto:hello@neuroshambles.com) 📸 Instagram: @neuroshambles 🎵 TikTok: @neuroshamblespod 📘 Facebook: Neuroshambles 📬 Sign up to the Neuroshambles mailing list: https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/2414072/190019322933937234/share   🎙️ CREDITS 🎶 Theme music by Skilsel on Pixabay: https://pixabay.com