Your Childhood Might Be Affecting Your Sales

Now, listen to me carefully.

Most people don't like selling.

They don't.

And it's not because selling is bad, because let's be honest, every single one of us have bought something before that has solved a problem for us.

For example, having a migraine, having some kind of illness that required you to buy some treatment, whatever it is, okay? Buying and selling is not terrible.

It's not a bad thing.

However, there's an identity that people attach to selling, which ultimately affects them from moving forwards.

And that identity is typically something that's stemming from a wounded child.

Now, what do I mean by this? Many of us experience some form of rejection when we were younger.

We have some kind of wound when it comes to being rejected, being told no,

or

being disliked.

And unconsciously, what many of us are doing is we're bringing that wounded child into sales conversations.

We don't want to challenge prospects because we don't wanna be having them push back on us because that will basically mean that they don't like us.

Can't possibly have that, right? Can't possibly have someone not

like me.

We don't wanna ask for the sale because it can come across pushy.

And again, if it's pushy, they might not like us, right? And sometimes we don't even wanna ask for the money.

We don't even wanna ask for the sale because selling and closing are two different things.

And why don't we wanna ask for the sale? Potentially because you don't wanna get a no.

And the reason you don't want to get a no is because it feels too familiar.

It feels like rejection, rejection that you experienced as a child, whether that was being rejected by your parents, by your siblings, by your friends at school, some form of rejections firing off, which basically means you don't like the feeling of being rejected.

So I'll avoid situations where I might get rejected, i.e. asking for the sale.

And can you see, my friends, unless we start to go to the root and we start to become one with ourselves and and be good with ourselves and not allow that stuff to shape who we are anymore, then we're always going to struggle and we're going to sabotage our sales and negotiations.

It's just how it is.