Jul 6, 2026 · 54 min · 11 segments
Most people attempt to fix life outside themselves, so they do not have to feel disturbed inside. But this approach creates an endless struggle and never really addresses the real problems, which are…
Michael SingerHost
You don't want to talk to somebody about, oh, this happened and that happened.
Why? It's always for the same reason, because you can't handle what's happening outside, you can't handle your emotions, you can't handle your thoughts, and any combination of those are pretty messed up.
What is the root? Well, I'm not doing well that somebody I like doesn't like me or somebody I love left me.
Okay? So of course, the root of the problem is why don't they like me and what can I do about it? No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
There are going to be people that don't like you, and there are going to be people that you can't do anything about it, and you can also make yourself neurotic by trying to make sure everybody likes you.
Yes.
That's trying to solve why I don't like it by making the situation be a way that I like or not be a way I don't like.
That is never, ever working at the root, and it doesn't really ever work really long term.
You don't want to talk to somebody about, oh, this happened and that happened.
Why? It's always for the same reason, because you can't handle what's happening outside, you can't handle your emotions, you can't handle your thoughts, and any combination of those are pretty messed up.
What is the root? Well, I'm not doing well that somebody I like doesn't like me or somebody I love left me.
Okay? So of course, the root of the problem is why don't they like me and what can I do about it? No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
There are going to be people that don't like you, and there are going to be people that you can't do anything about it, and you can also make yourself neurotic by trying to make sure everybody likes you.
Yes.
That's trying to solve why I don't like it by making the situation be a way that I like or not be a way I don't like.
That is never, ever working at the root, and it doesn't really ever work really long term.
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