Oct 9, 2026 · 31 min · 11 segments
A guided transcendent meditation for love, connection and transcendence. Part 1 of a 10-part series that explores love as connection, not as something you own. A grounded, secular meditation to…
Raphael ReiterHost
10 sessions on that one theme, on connection, on love, on what it means to go beyond what we might call the small self.

It comes from Barbara Fredrickson, a psychologist who spent her career studying positive emotions.

Most of that book is completely highlighted and I will do a podcast where I will share all my highlights.

And in her book, she says that whatever ideas about love you carry around in your head, your body recognizes only one.

She defines love as a micro-moment of warmth and connection that you share with another living being.

A micro-moment, not the great romance, the drama, not the lifelong commitment.

But what your nervous system calls love is much smaller, much shorter, much more frequent than that.

The smile that you share with the person at the bakery, a real laugh with a colleague, the second when your child looks up to check that you're watching, the stranger next to you at a football game, when the whole stadium stands up at the same time.

Humbling because it means love isn't something I own, it's not a possession, it happens between people, and then it fades, like every emotion does, like everything does.

And freeing also because it means love is available far more often than we think.

You don't have to wait for the right person, for your soulmate, for the right moment where you have this big declaration, you just have to be present enough to notice when it's there.

When people completely new to meditation learned to practice loving kindness, they felt more joy, more serenity, more connection.

But the biggest boost didn't happen on the meditation cushion or in the meditation dojo.

They happened afterwards in their interactions with other people off the meditation cushion.

Not as a way to escape the world, but as tuning the instrument, softening a little, so that when you stand up and go back into your day, you're more available for those moments.

10 sessions on that one theme, on connection, on love, on what it means to go beyond what we might call the small self.

It comes from Barbara Fredrickson, a psychologist who spent her career studying positive emotions.

Most of that book is completely highlighted and I will do a podcast where I will share all my highlights.

And in her book, she says that whatever ideas about love you carry around in your head, your body recognizes only one.

She defines love as a micro-moment of warmth and connection that you share with another living being.

A micro-moment, not the great romance, the drama, not the lifelong commitment.

But what your nervous system calls love is much smaller, much shorter, much more frequent than that.

The smile that you share with the person at the bakery, a real laugh with a colleague, the second when your child looks up to check that you're watching, the stranger next to you at a football game, when the whole stadium stands up at the same time.

Humbling because it means love isn't something I own, it's not a possession, it happens between people, and then it fades, like every emotion does, like everything does.

And freeing also because it means love is available far more often than we think.

You don't have to wait for the right person, for your soulmate, for the right moment where you have this big declaration, you just have to be present enough to notice when it's there.

When people completely new to meditation learned to practice loving kindness, they felt more joy, more serenity, more connection.

But the biggest boost didn't happen on the meditation cushion or in the meditation dojo.

They happened afterwards in their interactions with other people off the meditation cushion.

Not as a way to escape the world, but as tuning the instrument, softening a little, so that when you stand up and go back into your day, you're more available for those moments.
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