How to Feel More Comfortable in Your Own Skin

So some social situations that you might find yourself not being comfortable in your own skin.

Maybe you rehearse what you're going to say before speaking.

Maybe you find yourself worrying because you've said something stupid after the conversation has ended.

You might find yourself changing your opinions depending on who you're with.

You might feel like everybody else belongs except for you.

You might find yourself holding back aspects of your personality because you are afraid of being too much.

Some examples in everyday life that you might resonate with, constantly comparing yourself to other women.

I know I have done this So many times feeling awkward, accepting compliments.

Again, that's something I have had to like consciously pay attention to when somebody says to you, you look nice today or you I like your dress.

Oh, I only bought it in Tesco or wherever you bought it.

But not accepting compliments, just say, just saying thank you.

Needing reassurance that you've done a good job or overthinking simple decisions because you don't trust yourself.

Like that element of self-doubt.

Maybe you feel like you are playing a role instead of just being you.

And then things around your appearance.

So avoiding having your photo taken, feeling self-conscious walking into a room, like feeling like everybody's watching you, thinking that everyone notices your perceived flaws.

I say perceived, the ones that you perceive are flaws.

People probably don't notice them.

I'm wearing clothes that help you blend in rather than expressing yourself wearing makeup because you whether you realize it or not you are hiding behind a mask or people are less likely to notice the flaws that you see all the time like one of my biggest things has always been um I've always felt the need to wear a little bit of like foundation or or like even a tinted moisturizer, like just to make my complexion a little bit better.

And the big one for me is mascara.

I've always felt like my I guess because I'm quite fair skinned and fair haired, I feel like you can't see my eyes if I haven't got mascara on.

And I'm only realizing now that That's absolutely not the case.

Like it makes me feel ridiculous thinking that I've always felt that because I guarantee no one's ever looked at me and thought she's got no eyes.

And then examples that you might find yourself being uncomfortable in your own skin in relationships, so struggling to say what you really need.

Saying yes when you really mean no, so that lack of boundaries.