Love Your Life: Love Your Life: Midlife Reinvention, Emotional Regulation, & Parenting
Jul 15, 2026 · 23 min · 12 segments
What if one of the number one skills for feeling calmer, more confident, and more in control of your life was something you were never taught? If you're a genX, boomer, or early millennial, chances…
Susie PettitHost
E- emotional, em- emotional maturity has very, very, very little to do with age, especially for those of us born in the last century.

If you were born in the '60s, '70s, '80s, even the early '90s, emotional intelligence was not something people knew about.

They literally didn't know the brain worked in this way, so parents didn't think in the way they, like today's parents do.

Today's parents know that part of their job, if they've taken my parenting class, they know one of their three main jobs as a parent is to build their kids' emotional intelligence.

[laughs] Things that- that, like diminish our- our emotional intelligence and our knowledge of where emotions came from.

You were asked to clean your room and now Dad's mad." So linking Dad's emotion with my action.

Or maybe you were, you were said, "Well, I wouldn't have yelled if you didn't spill the milk all over the new rug." All right? We grew up in an era where they didn't know how the brain worked, and they didn't know about the thought model, and so they believed that what we did or didn't do would make someone feel a certain way.

All right? They- they missed the whole f- the whole mindfulness, cognitive part in there because they just didn't friggin' know.

E- emotional, em- emotional maturity has very, very, very little to do with age, especially for those of us born in the last century.

If you were born in the '60s, '70s, '80s, even the early '90s, emotional intelligence was not something people knew about.

They literally didn't know the brain worked in this way, so parents didn't think in the way they, like today's parents do.

Today's parents know that part of their job, if they've taken my parenting class, they know one of their three main jobs as a parent is to build their kids' emotional intelligence.

[laughs] Things that- that, like diminish our- our emotional intelligence and our knowledge of where emotions came from.

You were asked to clean your room and now Dad's mad." So linking Dad's emotion with my action.

Or maybe you were, you were said, "Well, I wouldn't have yelled if you didn't spill the milk all over the new rug." All right? We grew up in an era where they didn't know how the brain worked, and they didn't know about the thought model, and so they believed that what we did or didn't do would make someone feel a certain way.

All right? They- they missed the whole f- the whole mindfulness, cognitive part in there because they just didn't friggin' know.
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