Oct 6, 2026 · 34 min · 13 segments
⚠️ This episode contains discussions of death and grief ⚠️ In this episode of lethal venom, I chat with Sylvia Wolfer. | Guest Highlight | Sylvia specialises in the often-overlooked impact grief…
Sylvia WolferGuest
Noah MayHost
You, you realize because at some point you just can't function normally anymore.
I was exhausted, a type of fatigue that sleep couldn't fix, and I was constantly bracing, and I was constantly afraid of a wave of grief.
Um, and all the things that I used to do before that were helpful, they didn't work.
They didn't help me anymore, things like fasting, cold plunges, training hard, going for runs.
They were all depleting me even more, and it took me a long time to understand what was going on and then to really tackle it.
And the first things I did, and that I use now in my grief work, were really to tend to the body in very simple ways.
You know, make sure I hydrate, make sure I eat proper food, whole meal foods, um, trying to have a sleep routine, surrounding myself with people who are beneficial to me and not draining my energy, um, going outdoors, you know, these little things, and to really tick the boxes every day.
Because sometimes when emotionally it gets too heavy, the best way to go through that is to tend to the body, which might be surprising, but it's an im- Our body's wisdom is extremely deep, and we are far from understanding it completely, but we can certainly tap into it and always come home to the body.
And what then also did help me was to understand the science because I was really...
You know, I've, I've always loved training, [coughs] excuse me, um, but I couldn't train anymore.
I was that girl who trained, who did cold plunges, was fasting, and I couldn't do all of these things anymore.
But I think we don't quite realize how much our nervous system is affected until it really impacts our daily life.
And I had that feeling, like you were saying, you know, grief just jumps at you, and I had the feeling, "Well, this is just what my life is gonna be now," you know? "This is just the normal consequence of having lost the people I love most." But now I know it's not true.
So, you know, when, um, I spent decades at the mercy of these grief triggers, and they even kept me from doing random things like going out.
You, you realize because at some point you just can't function normally anymore.
I was exhausted, a type of fatigue that sleep couldn't fix, and I was constantly bracing, and I was constantly afraid of a wave of grief.
Um, and all the things that I used to do before that were helpful, they didn't work.
They didn't help me anymore, things like fasting, cold plunges, training hard, going for runs.
They were all depleting me even more, and it took me a long time to understand what was going on and then to really tackle it.
And the first things I did, and that I use now in my grief work, were really to tend to the body in very simple ways.
You know, make sure I hydrate, make sure I eat proper food, whole meal foods, um, trying to have a sleep routine, surrounding myself with people who are beneficial to me and not draining my energy, um, going outdoors, you know, these little things, and to really tick the boxes every day.
Because sometimes when emotionally it gets too heavy, the best way to go through that is to tend to the body, which might be surprising, but it's an im- Our body's wisdom is extremely deep, and we are far from understanding it completely, but we can certainly tap into it and always come home to the body.
And what then also did help me was to understand the science because I was really...
You know, I've, I've always loved training, [coughs] excuse me, um, but I couldn't train anymore.
I was that girl who trained, who did cold plunges, was fasting, and I couldn't do all of these things anymore.
But I think we don't quite realize how much our nervous system is affected until it really impacts our daily life.
And I had that feeling, like you were saying, you know, grief just jumps at you, and I had the feeling, "Well, this is just what my life is gonna be now," you know? "This is just the normal consequence of having lost the people I love most." But now I know it's not true.
So, you know, when, um, I spent decades at the mercy of these grief triggers, and they even kept me from doing random things like going out.
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