Sep 28, 2026 · 30 min · 11 segments
Imagine entering a space where your wildest sexual fantasies are on full display - minus the creepy dudes. Forget keys in a bowl and seedy nightclubs, women are flipping the stereotype, creating sexy…
Yumi StynesHostFlissGuestAmeliaGuestWe've had one person that has been asked to leave, and he was asked to leave for touching people inappropriately.
She knows that making a party feel safe enough for people to do extremely vulnerable things, like get naked and have dildo cams projecting parts of themselves onto the ceiling that have previously been seen only by God and a couple of midwives, that kind of vulnerability needs to come with the assurance that if someone is giving off bad vibes, they'll be removed.
She says gauging a potential sex partner's interest can begin with eye contact, before you even say a word.
If you've met someone on the dance floor, you've looked at them, you said, "You're really gorgeous.
I imagine it would be delicious to kiss you.
Can I try?" And some people wanna come to parties and watch, and you can go up to some- somebody in a room or that they're making out in public, and ask them, just make eye contact with them, "You guys look really hot.
Is it okay if I sit in the corner and watch you?"
It sounds like there's a bit of responsibility on the attendees of a sex party to be able to voice their comfort or discomfort.
100%.
And learning your own boundaries is an ongoing education.
Apart from using your words to explain what you do and don't want sexually, Lotus says there is another aspect of sex parties that people find really hard to overcome.
It's all of our own hang-ups on ourselves, our bodies, our self-esteem, and getting past that is just the most confronting thing.
But in these sort of parties that I go to, you're going to see so many different bodies.
You're going to see every iteration of trans and non-binary bodies.
You're going to see older bodies, bigger bodies, and that's something that a lot of people feel self-conscious about going to a party like this.
They might think that their body has to be a certain way, and it's 100% the opposite of that, very much so.
Being in that presence can give you your own empowerment.
[upbeat music]
When Lotus isn't volunteering as a consent angel, she goes to queer events by herself or straight events with her husband, who is new to the scene.
I did ask my husband last night, and I said, "What would you have liked to known before you went to your first party?" And he said, "Just to remember that there are other new people as well.
Not everybody's a pro." It's not a scene where you're not invited.
It's not gatekept like it used to be years ago.
We've had one person that has been asked to leave, and he was asked to leave for touching people inappropriately.
She knows that making a party feel safe enough for people to do extremely vulnerable things, like get naked and have dildo cams projecting parts of themselves onto the ceiling that have previously been seen only by God and a couple of midwives, that kind of vulnerability needs to come with the assurance that if someone is giving off bad vibes, they'll be removed.
She says gauging a potential sex partner's interest can begin with eye contact, before you even say a word.
If you've met someone on the dance floor, you've looked at them, you said, "You're really gorgeous.
I imagine it would be delicious to kiss you.
Can I try?" And some people wanna come to parties and watch, and you can go up to some- somebody in a room or that they're making out in public, and ask them, just make eye contact with them, "You guys look really hot.
Is it okay if I sit in the corner and watch you?"
It sounds like there's a bit of responsibility on the attendees of a sex party to be able to voice their comfort or discomfort.
100%.
And learning your own boundaries is an ongoing education.
Apart from using your words to explain what you do and don't want sexually, Lotus says there is another aspect of sex parties that people find really hard to overcome.
It's all of our own hang-ups on ourselves, our bodies, our self-esteem, and getting past that is just the most confronting thing.
But in these sort of parties that I go to, you're going to see so many different bodies.
You're going to see every iteration of trans and non-binary bodies.
You're going to see older bodies, bigger bodies, and that's something that a lot of people feel self-conscious about going to a party like this.
They might think that their body has to be a certain way, and it's 100% the opposite of that, very much so.
Being in that presence can give you your own empowerment.
[upbeat music]
When Lotus isn't volunteering as a consent angel, she goes to queer events by herself or straight events with her husband, who is new to the scene.
I did ask my husband last night, and I said, "What would you have liked to known before you went to your first party?" And he said, "Just to remember that there are other new people as well.
Not everybody's a pro." It's not a scene where you're not invited.
It's not gatekept like it used to be years ago.
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