49: Why You Attracted A Narcissist - Reprogram Your Subconscious Brain (Part 3)

I think the word heal implies that there's something wrong with you when there isn't, and I just... associate the word heal with like a roll-eye energy, like healing journey.

But I just don't know what else to call it, to be honest.

So I was like, okay, we'll just go with that.

But at the start of my journey into understanding what the hell had happened to me, like I literally just left an emotionally abusive relationship.

I had been there before.

for 11 years and I really wanted to understand why my brain had let me be in there for 11 years and why my brain could not see another perspective, like why it kept me in there.

So my podcast is all about neuroscience, but mixed in with spirituality as well, to literally give you guys the clarity that I needed back in the day when I was just like, what the hell just happened to me i just could not figure it out and after years and years and years of research trial and error doing different healing modalities going to therapy doing this reading this book looking at this like course literally just doing all the things was so so long This is the highest frequency information that has changed my life.

This is the thing.

So at the first mini series, the first part of it, I was talking about my experience.

So you guys can see that I'm the real deal, that you know what I'm talking about.

In the second part, I talked about my childhood programming.

I'm not sure I like the word programming either, but that's what our brain is.

Our brain basically runs on programs.

It runs on automatic thought patterns.

We have a 5% conscious brain that we are consciously aware of and a 95% subconscious brain, which basically means that that most of our thought patterns, of our automatic reactions, of our actions that we put out into the world are just below our conscious awareness, which means we are actually not aware of the things we are telling ourselves inside.

in our own heads and these limiting belief systems like a belief is just repeated messaging it's not an inner knowing so these types of thought patterns are formed in what they literally can be formed from anywhere so Obviously, childhood is just literally the huge biggest one.

But it's also repeated messaging from marketing, from the outside world, from social media.

It can also be from a traumatic experience that you had.

And this could be like a one-off experience or it could be repeated experiences.

And basically... your nervous system has like marked that experience and it is now living within your body so every time you encounter some type of similar experience that's basically what we call a trigger when someone basically triggers you you go back your body your nervous system goes back to that moment in time and thinks that whatever is going on is a threat that you are in danger that you are going back to that moment where you experience a trauma or basically a highly elevated emotion and this could be yes crazy crazy things but it also could be you're crying as a two-year-old and no one picked you up it could be you are talking in class you've got like the stage and you are on stage and you're talking you've got like a presentation a show and tell whatever the thing is and you might clock someone laughing at you and in that moment in time your brain has decided that people laugh at you when you talk out loud And basically, it's just a running program that goes in your brain, goes in your brain and repeated messaging.

When you have an elevated emotion attached to that kind of experience.

And usually, yes, you can have like, you know, nice elevated emotions.

But what we're talking about at this moment in time is usually negative associated negative emotions.

Emotions, no emotions are negative or positive but in our human perception they are.

So when we experience something that gave us an elevated negative experience, an elevated negative emotion, we clock that.