Love In Sickness And In Health

Okay, it's time for the Meltdown Breakdown.

This is where we talk through an anonymous wig out that's come in via our submission form, which is linked in the show notes if you'd like to submit your own dilemmas.

Please do.

You better do that

right now.

Anon says, hello, mother wigs.

Hello.

Hello.

We loved that so much.

Thank you so much for the pod.

I'm sorry to say I have a raging tornado.

My partner is sick.

We don't know why.

He's still having tests with various doctors, but no clear diagnosis so far.

Basically, he has really severe chronic fatigue, so bad that he's gone from running marathons to barely managing to get through work and do basic daily tasks.

We've just come home from an overseas holiday, which was amazing, but it felt like we bickered and fought the whole time, mostly because of him feeling shitty, understandable, and sometimes bringing me down, but he would always apologize after.

I've listened to your ep on invisible illness and I'm getting my head around the spoon theory.

I'm doing my best to adjust expectations.

For example, I did a lot of stuff alone on our holiday while he rested in the hotel room.

But I guess I'm just struggling to come to terms with the fact that he almost seems like a completely different person to when we met.

And what this might mean for our previously shared future goals like having a family and doing more travel.

We live together already.

I love him so much and our relationship was great before he started feeling this way.

So much fun and laughter, shared values and goals, challenging each other and communicating always.

I don't want to break up and the thought of that starts a whole new spiral about wanting kids but being single again in my early 30s.