Aug 20, 2026 · 46 min · 11 segments
How do you know if the doubt you're feeling is ROCD or a sign of real problems in your relationship? In this episode, we break down the differences between the two, why they're so hard to tell apart…
And, um, I'm sure that many of you listening are aware that you might have ROCD, but there is also, for most people, real relationship problems that surface, and how do you differentiate between the two? Elaborate on that, Grace.
How do you wanna speak to that?
Yeah.
Yeah.
So how to...
Well, what I've seen...
I'll just speak to what I've seen with clients and what I experience myself, right? Is that a real relationship problem, and we'll, we'll kind of dive into what that means and what that is, right, will surface.
And then the part of you, right, usually that avoided part of you, will use it as evidence, will hook onto it as evidence of like, "See, I have been lying to myself.
I don't have ROCD.
There is a...
Like, there is a reason.
I should break up." And then the spiral...
Like, it, it feeds that spiral.
Instead of, like, um...
I'll speak for Alex and, and myself, 'cause we've talked about this, right? Now that we have effectively healed from ROCD, and relationship problems come up in our relationship, is it stressful? Of course.
Of course it is.
It's a way.
Right? It, it's a problem.
It's an issue that needs to be dealt with.
And for me at least, I'll speak for myself, I'm not coming at it from this, like, panic state, and I'm not...
Breaking up is not even crossing my mind.
What's crossing my mind is, "Oh, okay.
Yep, this is, this is an issue.
What are, what are some things? What are some tools? What...
Who can I talk to about this? Do we have a therapist? Do we have someone we could do a couple couples sessions with? Do we just need to sit on the couch and really talk and hear each other?" As I know, Alex, you do a great communication...
And, um, I'm sure that many of you listening are aware that you might have ROCD, but there is also, for most people, real relationship problems that surface, and how do you differentiate between the two? Elaborate on that, Grace.
How do you wanna speak to that?
Yeah.
Yeah.
So how to...
Well, what I've seen...
I'll just speak to what I've seen with clients and what I experience myself, right? Is that a real relationship problem, and we'll, we'll kind of dive into what that means and what that is, right, will surface.
And then the part of you, right, usually that avoided part of you, will use it as evidence, will hook onto it as evidence of like, "See, I have been lying to myself.
I don't have ROCD.
There is a...
Like, there is a reason.
I should break up." And then the spiral...
Like, it, it feeds that spiral.
Instead of, like, um...
I'll speak for Alex and, and myself, 'cause we've talked about this, right? Now that we have effectively healed from ROCD, and relationship problems come up in our relationship, is it stressful? Of course.
Of course it is.
It's a way.
Right? It, it's a problem.
It's an issue that needs to be dealt with.
And for me at least, I'll speak for myself, I'm not coming at it from this, like, panic state, and I'm not...
Breaking up is not even crossing my mind.
What's crossing my mind is, "Oh, okay.
Yep, this is, this is an issue.
What are, what are some things? What are some tools? What...
Who can I talk to about this? Do we have a therapist? Do we have someone we could do a couple couples sessions with? Do we just need to sit on the couch and really talk and hear each other?" As I know, Alex, you do a great communication...
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