Ep 119: I Finally Understand What It Means to Surrender

The reason why this topic came up is that I've seen it in my work a lot recently.

My work with clients, students, mentees, session after session over the last two weeks, I think the message is surrender.

When it shows up once, I'm like, okay, cool, good message, yep, applicable.

Twice, okay, coincidence, three, four, five, six times.

Apparently, we need to talk about this now.

And the word that keeps coming through, like I said, is surrender.

Surrender in the path, surrender to the outcome, stop trying to control what happens next or what the outcome is going to be.

And I think that surrender is one of those spiritual words that sounds beautiful, serene, peaceful until you're actually asked to do it.

Because surrendering sounds good and great when everything is going as planned, when the plan is executing as it's supposed to.

But it's a lot harder when you don't know what's going to happen with your relationship, with your career, with your family, with your business, maybe even within your spiritual development.

Whatever your it is, I'm air quoting your it, whatever your... your theme is that you're trying to control.

That's when I think we start gripping it tighter.

That's when we hold on tight to those outcomes.

And surrendering becomes a lot harder.

We start running every possible future through our mind.

What if this happens? What if that happens? What if I make the wrong decision? What if this isn't my path or I choose the wrong path? And I think this is where we misunderstand what surrendering means.

Surrender doesn't mean that you stop making decisions for yourself or that you stop taking action.

Surrendering means that you stop believing that you can control everything that happens after that decision or that action is made.

And this was a whole big lesson for me in 2025, 2026.

It was an incredibly hard lesson for me to learn.

When I say that I have surrendered in my life, I don't mean that I've stopped participating.

I still make decisions day to day.

I book trips.

I plan classes.

I say yes.