Oct 1, 2026 · 31 min · 10 segments
Hospitality can sometimes feel like one more thing on an already full plate... but what if opening your home doesn't require what we often think it does? In this conversation, I sit down with…
Elizabeth SantelmannGuest
Britt FisherHost
Okay, so walk me through what hospitality actually looks like in a normal week or month at your house and in your life.
What rhythms are you most intentional about, both in the way you practice hospitality to your own family-
Yeah, so I think there's a really big hurdle that I had to get over because we don't remember our childhoods truly.
We remember being teenagers and preteens, and so, like, growing up, we had this, like, our house had to always be 10 minutes to clean mentality.
My mom, like, you picked up after yourself, you put things away after yourself, and, like, you c- your hou- well, oh, so she called it company ready.
Your house had to be company ready within 10 minutes, and that meant, like, everything dusted, everything perfectly clean, everything, like, e- like, it just had to look like nobody lived there, basically, within 10 minutes.
And so when I started having babies, I realized all by myself I can't do this.
Like, if I had two teenage daughters, sure, maybe we could pull this off, but I can't do this with toddlers.
And I had this, uh, friend that encouraged me to just start inviting people over into the mess, which, like, gave me the heebie-jeebies at first.
Um, and so to practice it, 'cause we don't get good at anything unless we practice it, I started inviting one specific friend who I knew wouldn't judge over on Mondays, which was laundry day, which was as messy as it got, in order to, like, try to desensitize myself to it.
Um, but then from there, just, like, kind of learning to just invite people into the mess and to do life next to you instead of waiting till you get all of the pieces together and everything perfect before you welcome people in.
Um, and I think sometimes just, like, not overcomplicating the menu too, like, inviting people over.
Um, like, we go to Sam's, and we get rotisserie chickens, and we just take all the meat off the bones, and we'd pour beans over it and season it to be tacos.
And you put it down on a bed of chips, um, because then if you pick the right chips, it's gluten-free, it's dairy-free, it's all the frees, and, like, people can, like, put on it whatever ingredients is their favorite.
And if people come over to our house, like, 9 times out of 10, they've probably eaten that meal because we try not to overcomplicate it.
I think sometimes we can get so, like, Southern culturally hosty instead of just welcoming people in, uh, that we feel like it has to have, like, a fancy table setting and a special menu.
Um, but if the value is just hospitality, uh, having something, like, super simple and easy to be like, "Yeah, come on in," uh, is really helpful.
Okay, so walk me through what hospitality actually looks like in a normal week or month at your house and in your life.
What rhythms are you most intentional about, both in the way you practice hospitality to your own family-
Yeah, so I think there's a really big hurdle that I had to get over because we don't remember our childhoods truly.
We remember being teenagers and preteens, and so, like, growing up, we had this, like, our house had to always be 10 minutes to clean mentality.
My mom, like, you picked up after yourself, you put things away after yourself, and, like, you c- your hou- well, oh, so she called it company ready.
Your house had to be company ready within 10 minutes, and that meant, like, everything dusted, everything perfectly clean, everything, like, e- like, it just had to look like nobody lived there, basically, within 10 minutes.
And so when I started having babies, I realized all by myself I can't do this.
Like, if I had two teenage daughters, sure, maybe we could pull this off, but I can't do this with toddlers.
And I had this, uh, friend that encouraged me to just start inviting people over into the mess, which, like, gave me the heebie-jeebies at first.
Um, and so to practice it, 'cause we don't get good at anything unless we practice it, I started inviting one specific friend who I knew wouldn't judge over on Mondays, which was laundry day, which was as messy as it got, in order to, like, try to desensitize myself to it.
Um, but then from there, just, like, kind of learning to just invite people into the mess and to do life next to you instead of waiting till you get all of the pieces together and everything perfect before you welcome people in.
Um, and I think sometimes just, like, not overcomplicating the menu too, like, inviting people over.
Um, like, we go to Sam's, and we get rotisserie chickens, and we just take all the meat off the bones, and we'd pour beans over it and season it to be tacos.
And you put it down on a bed of chips, um, because then if you pick the right chips, it's gluten-free, it's dairy-free, it's all the frees, and, like, people can, like, put on it whatever ingredients is their favorite.
And if people come over to our house, like, 9 times out of 10, they've probably eaten that meal because we try not to overcomplicate it.
I think sometimes we can get so, like, Southern culturally hosty instead of just welcoming people in, uh, that we feel like it has to have, like, a fancy table setting and a special menu.
Um, but if the value is just hospitality, uh, having something, like, super simple and easy to be like, "Yeah, come on in," uh, is really helpful.
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