Why Confidence Comes After Action | Rebuilding Your Body, Habits & Self-Belief

And I've sat in your hair salon enough times to see people being transformed and, you know, they walk out there with a bounce and a step and it's a quick fix, isn't it? So why are people, particularly women, so judgmental of other people's appearance as well as being very critical of their own appearance?

This is such a tough one for me because my heart and my brain, I should say, default to the patriarchy.

Like we've been fed these messages that other women are our competition and we need to compete for the attention of men and that's why.

That's part of it.

That is absolutely part of it.

But I think what's also a part of it is, I've heard this quote said before and I really do think it's true.

The way that your mom talked about other women in front of you is the way that you think about yourself.

It's the inner voice that you have.

And I think that there's really a deep level of parental origin in a lot of the ways that we judge and look at other women.

And it really is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves.

And I think that, you know, I remember my mom growing up whenever, first of all, my mom was amazing and was not, you know, in this category of breaking me down.

But I remember when I would feel like less than or that I wasn't as pretty as the other girls or as whatever as the other girls.

My mom would say, you know, if someone's being mean to you about your appearance, that's a reflection of how they feel about themselves.

And I couldn't understand it when I was 12, 13.

I was like, no, no, no, it's because they were like way better than me.

And it was like, no, no, no, it's because they're projecting some level of insecurity onto you.

And I think as women, we sometimes don't necessarily age out of that or we expect that we will age out of it without doing some work.

And I think there's actually work that needs to be done in realizing that there is space for every woman to be the maximum version of herself.

There is no scarcity mindset when it comes to women being beautiful, women being capable.

And the more that we work on seeing that, I think the easier it'll be for all of us.

And we talk about the sisterhood and boosting other women, helping them.

But actually, a lot of women are a bunch of bitches, let's face

it.

And

they can choose not to be.