Making It Right Once You're Better? (Episode 173)

Today, we're going to talk about the idea that we might want to try to make it right.

after we're better like we're down the road we're desensitized we're sort of living our regular life again and you know there's that regret and that guilt over like stuff i missed out on stuff i didn't do i canceled all my friends a lot and try and make it right did you do that

it's an evocative question i find it evokes something because it's like once you make it right it's almost an insinuation that you've done something wrong I've been anxious, I'm in panic attacks, agoraphobia, OCD, in a sensitized state.

That's not your fault.

I think everyone could state that it's not, quite clearly, it's not your fault.

But for some people, yeah, okay, when you do have an anxiety disorder and you're around people, maybe that stops them from doing something or prevents them from doing something.

And maybe you want to make up for lost time.

But it's very evocative in the sense that you don't internalize that you've done something wrong.

and i think it's very very important oh i'm a burden on people i'm doing this it's like i don't know you might you might want to walk the three peaks in the uk or you might want to go on a running holiday but you break your leg you know like how can i make it right you didn't intentionally wake up and break your leg did you you know and it's like okay getting the i think this question is about finding the right balance and compassion and not only making it right for others but also forgiving yourself like you know realizing you've done nothing wrong it's like making it right it's like i don't know it's a good i like the question because it's thought provoking true it's like is this a whole episode just like yeah i think it is

Yeah, someone in our studio audience just said, I spent about $1,000 on Daily Dunkin' Donuts and Coffee here in the U.S. making up for lost time once I started drinking caffeine again.

And it's interesting, right? Hey, we're not responsible, by the way.

If you start spending money on donuts and coffee, don't come to

us.

On one trip? Are you alive? That was a lot of coffee.

But I think part of this question, and it's so good because it's so nuanced, right? It's almost the acknowledgement that we're going to have some feelings about what happened to us.

I had them.

Everybody has them.

Sometimes there's guilt.

There's regret.

There's mourning for the time lost.

There's all of these things.

And we talk all the time about how all emotions have to be welcomed and allowed here.

And sometimes I think...

Trying to make it right is, oh, I feel so bad about those two or three or five or six years of my life, whatever it was, and I need to try to fix this feeling, and I have to do something to make my regret and my guilt go away.

or you just have to have it you know there's nothing you really do about it so