295. How to Give Someone a Chance Without Settling w/ Jordanne Sculler

So Welcome, Jordanne, to the Dating Intentionally podcast.

I am so excited to chat with you today about all things just dating and what we're going through right now.

And to kick it off, I just would love to hear from a therapist's point of view, what are you seeing across the board with your single clients this month? Yeah.

Well,

first of all, thank you so much for having me.

I'm so excited to be here.

I would say something that I'm seeing across the board, which I'm finding so interesting and I actually love, love, love working with is My single clients are really craving connection.

And it's a different type of connection than I think we typically see.

I'm noticing that a lot of my clients are looking at other relationships around them and noticing maybe how unhappy some people are, maybe how people settle down.

for something that doesn't feel quite right for the idea of a relationship.

So I'm really loving how people are leaning in right now more to this idea of how can I really feel connected? What is it going to take for me to understand what I want in terms of connection? And really waiting for that to come.

Yeah, let's dig into that for a second because I think a lot of people can relate.

I think for whatever reason, connection is hard to come by these days.

It feels difficult.

It feels like a huge lift to get out there.

And I'll share kind of a little bit of my experience lately making new friends.

You know, this is...

My friendship popped off this summer for some reason.

I have been really lucky that I have expanded my social circle here in Mountain View, which is very isolating in the suburbs.

But I will say how much effort it takes.

It's a lot of work.

And it does remind me of dating a lot because I'm like, oh, yeah, I should just keep texting this person just to make sure the connection stays alive.

So what are you seeing with your clients? Where are they struggling most with their connections? Is it because things look bleak or what is it?

Well, first of all, I just want to say I can totally relate to you.

I'm a year into a big move myself and those friendships are really, really hard to maintain and came up with at first.