When Sobriety Changes Your Relationships

And I think one of the hardest parts about getting sober isn't necessarily quitting the substance.

It's realizing that the life that you built around the substance might have to change too.

And that's scary because maybe you've been smoking weed for 10, 15, 20 years and Maybe your friends smoke, maybe your social life revolves around smoking, and maybe certain relationships were built around that lifestyle.

It could be certain hobbies or routines or places or even conversations are connected to it.

And then one day, it could be maybe certain hobbies or routines or places or even certain conversations can be connected to it.

And then one day you decide, I don't want to live like this anymore.

But here's the thing that can be tricky.

When you change, not everybody around you is going to change with you.

And that doesn't make them bad people.

It doesn't make you better than them.

And it doesn't mean that you have to hate them.

It just means that you're moving in a different direction.

And if you're wanting to want to quit, I think there's a really important distinction when it comes to addiction.

So you can't always convince somebody to quit.

People have to make the decision on their own.

People have to want to want to quit.

And there's a difference.

You can love somebody from afar and you can tell them that you care about them.

You can tell them what you see happening.

You can offer support.

But you can't make somebody want a different life.

That's something that just can't be given to somebody else.

And that's something that we have to accept.

Because sometimes when we get sober and we start looking at the people around us and start thinking, oh, why don't you want this too? Why can't you see what I'm seeing? Why aren't you changing? That can turn into resentment.

But resentment isn't recovery.