The Dating Double Standards We Need to Stop Believing

From who should text first to who should pay for the date, dating is full of unspoken rules—and many of them are rooted in outdated double standards. In this episode, Carla Romo unpacks some of the most common relationship myths and expectations that continue to shape modern dating. She explores how these double standards affect confidence, communication, and the way we show up in relationships. Carla breaks down the biggest dating debates, including body count, jealousy, gender roles, social media boundaries, and expectations around paying for dates. She explains why many of these beliefs create unnecessary conflict and insecurity, and how questioning them can lead to healthier, more authentic relationships built on mutual respect instead of outdated norms. Carla also dives into the double standards surrounding sex and intimacy, including who is "supposed" to initiate, why confidence should never be gender-specific, and how honest conversations about boundaries and desire create stronger connections. If you've ever wondered whether you're following dating rules that no longer serve you, this episode will challenge the way you think about modern relationships. **What You'll Learn** - Many dating "rules" are based on outdated double standards rather than healthy relationship principles. - Body count stigma often reflects societal bias more than personal values. - Healthy relationships are built on equality, not rigid gender roles. - Jealousy is a normal emotion, but controlling behavior is never healthy. - Social media boundaries should be based on trust, not surveillance. - Open communication about sex creates healthier intimacy than assumptions. - Respect, honesty, and shared values matter more than following traditional dating expectations. **Work with me**:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session **Proven Dating Courses**: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs **Book**: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good **Tiktok**: @iamcarlaromo  **Instagram**: @iamcarlaromo **Youtube**: @iamcarlaromo **FREEBIE**: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions **Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On** **Sound Bites** - "Society has always been okay with men having multiple partners." - "The double standard around body count is bullshit." - "Paying for dates doesn't define how much someone cares." **Chapters** 01:10 — Double Standards in Dating & Relationships Nobody Wants To Admit 13:46 — Sexual Double Standards We Still Haven't Let Go Of **Disclaimer**: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.