Blonde Highlights with Kris and Kyle
Sep 3, 2026 · 1 hr 2 min · 25 segments
In this engaging conversation, Kris Yeo, Kyle Hennessy, and Danielle Bezalel explore the multifaceted world of sex education, touching on Danielle's journey into the field, the importance of…
Danielle BezalelGuest
Kris YeoHost
Kyle HennessyHost
this is a such a a deep question because back to like the mental health and the psychological piece right like shame really impacts how we view ourselves naked especially for women queer folks people with vulvas, particularly for those people, because we have been taught through media mostly and through culture that white, cis, skinny bodies are the norm.
And so it's really easy for us to look in the mirror and immediately look at what we don't like about ourselves.
And so it's really important to do mirror work right of like looking in the mirror and say like i'm gonna say two things that i genuinely love about my body today and i'm just gonna repeat that to myself every day and like the more comfortable that we feel really believing like hey this is a really positive thing about myself i love my eyebrow shape i love my eyes I love my mouth.
Like whatever it is that you genuinely feel excited about, focus your energy on saying that to yourself.
And when you catch yourself looking in the mirror, say, you know, two minutes a day, you spend doing this, right? Even if it's 10 seconds, start with 10 seconds and then maybe ramp it up a little bit more.
I'm like, I fucking hate that vein, right? Like we all have stuff in our body that we don't like, but the less that we give that voice a platform and the more we focus on the things we genuinely love, then we're able to feel more comfortable being naked in our own bodies.
And I think like, the part B to this answer is in talking about masturbation and talking about self pleasure, because it is incredibly empowering to be the person in charge of your own pleasure without feeling like you need someone else to depend on that for you.
It allows me to have a date with myself, right? Like whatever that looks like for you.
If you're like listening to audio erotica or you're watching porn or you're, you know, turning the lights off and putting some candles on or you're listening to music, you're getting out the massage oil for yourself.
Like that all contributes to like a body positive practice that allows you to really see the good parts of yourself and to really invest in your own pleasure, which like really helps has a great return on investment when you're looking at how to connect with yourself and with other people.
Like once you are able to share your confidence and what you like in the bedroom and what you like sexually with other people, like that connection with somebody else, if you choose to have a relationship with someone else is much stronger when you have that baseline.
Well, I mean, I guess it's just like, like in all relationships sort of like you have to love yourself first in order to love somebody else so I guess it would make sense that taking that time like how you said like have a date with yourself to really just like make it your own nice experience and like fall in love with doing your like doing yourself but like doing it with yourself you know what I mean like you know what I mean like I think yeah that's great advice okay
yeah I like and I also want to quickly just speak to this idea of like body neutrality right like a lot of us are taught like body positivity like you go bitch love yourself at every second of the day and like sometimes that's like not really an option for people like some people just want to feel neutral about their body and i think that's perfectly okay too and i think that we should encourage people if they don't want to be focusing on their body all the time As long as we're not contributing to negative self-talk about our bodies and we're either being positive or being neutral, I think that's the space that we want to live in.
this is a such a a deep question because back to like the mental health and the psychological piece right like shame really impacts how we view ourselves naked especially for women queer folks people with vulvas, particularly for those people, because we have been taught through media mostly and through culture that white, cis, skinny bodies are the norm.
And so it's really easy for us to look in the mirror and immediately look at what we don't like about ourselves.
And so it's really important to do mirror work right of like looking in the mirror and say like i'm gonna say two things that i genuinely love about my body today and i'm just gonna repeat that to myself every day and like the more comfortable that we feel really believing like hey this is a really positive thing about myself i love my eyebrow shape i love my eyes I love my mouth.
Like whatever it is that you genuinely feel excited about, focus your energy on saying that to yourself.
And when you catch yourself looking in the mirror, say, you know, two minutes a day, you spend doing this, right? Even if it's 10 seconds, start with 10 seconds and then maybe ramp it up a little bit more.
I'm like, I fucking hate that vein, right? Like we all have stuff in our body that we don't like, but the less that we give that voice a platform and the more we focus on the things we genuinely love, then we're able to feel more comfortable being naked in our own bodies.
And I think like, the part B to this answer is in talking about masturbation and talking about self pleasure, because it is incredibly empowering to be the person in charge of your own pleasure without feeling like you need someone else to depend on that for you.
It allows me to have a date with myself, right? Like whatever that looks like for you.
If you're like listening to audio erotica or you're watching porn or you're, you know, turning the lights off and putting some candles on or you're listening to music, you're getting out the massage oil for yourself.
Like that all contributes to like a body positive practice that allows you to really see the good parts of yourself and to really invest in your own pleasure, which like really helps has a great return on investment when you're looking at how to connect with yourself and with other people.
Like once you are able to share your confidence and what you like in the bedroom and what you like sexually with other people, like that connection with somebody else, if you choose to have a relationship with someone else is much stronger when you have that baseline.
Well, I mean, I guess it's just like, like in all relationships sort of like you have to love yourself first in order to love somebody else so I guess it would make sense that taking that time like how you said like have a date with yourself to really just like make it your own nice experience and like fall in love with doing your like doing yourself but like doing it with yourself you know what I mean like you know what I mean like I think yeah that's great advice okay
yeah I like and I also want to quickly just speak to this idea of like body neutrality right like a lot of us are taught like body positivity like you go bitch love yourself at every second of the day and like sometimes that's like not really an option for people like some people just want to feel neutral about their body and i think that's perfectly okay too and i think that we should encourage people if they don't want to be focusing on their body all the time As long as we're not contributing to negative self-talk about our bodies and we're either being positive or being neutral, I think that's the space that we want to live in.
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