S3 E10: Am I Just Lazy? And Nine Other Questions You're Too Scared To Ask

Welcome back to *Autism, ADHD and Us Three*. In this community Q&A episode, Jenny answers 10 questions sent in by listeners and Instagram followers about late-diagnosed autism, ADHD and AuDHD identity. This is the final episode of Season 3 as the podcast will be taking its summer break in July and August. This episode explores the huge emotional reckoning that can come after diagnosis or self-discovery, including identity confusion, masking, self-diagnosis, exhaustion, executive dysfunction, relationships, friendships and redefining success on your own terms. Jenny talks about why self-diagnosis is valid, why you are not lazy, why masking can be so hard to untangle and how late-diagnosed neurodivergent adults can begin building lives that actually respect their nervous systems, energy and needs. If you have ever wondered who you are now, whether you have made it all up, why you are so tired or what success even looks like anymore, this episode is for you. - Who am I now and who have I been? - Why diagnosis can make your whole life reorganise itself - Why self-diagnosis and self-discovery are valid - Why exhaustion is not laziness - The invisible energy cost of masking, sensory processing and executive function - How to challenge the lazy script in your head - What masking actually is and how to start spotting it - Why relationships can shift after diagnosis - How to get things done with poor executive function - Body doubling, timers, rituals and externalising your memory - How to build a life that respects your AuDHD needs - Redefining success after late diagnosis \------------------------------------------ Useful linksJoin the Reclaim Yourself membership waitlist or check whether doors are open: https://www.audhdistically.me/join-the-membership Work with Jenny, including 1:1 coaching and text coaching options: https://www.audhdistically.me/work-with-me Sign up for Jenny’s weekly Positivity Pause newsletter: https://www.audhdistically.me/get-my-newsletter Buy Jenny’s book: [https://amzn.to/4o58FQf]() Visit Audhdistically Me: https://www.audhdistically.me Follow Jenny on Instagram: Keywords Late diagnosed autism, late diagnosed ADHD, AuDHD, autistic ADHD adults, neurodivergent women, self-diagnosis, autistic self-discovery, ADHD self-discovery, masking, unmasking, executive dysfunction, autistic burnout, ADHD burnout, neurodivergent exhaustion, self-acceptance, neurodivergent identity, adult autism diagnosis, adult ADHD diagnosis, AuDHD relationships, neurodivergent friendships, sensory overload, late diagnosed AuDHD women, autistic women, ADHD women, Reclaim Yourself membership, Audhdistically Me, Autism ADHD and Us Three.