Success With Less Stress: Executive Function Skills and ADHD Accommodations with Michael Delman

Yeah.

I think it's interesting that you say that as you saw more and more of this, you adopted the perspective of, okay, maybe this isn't a kid problem, but this is a systems problem or a ladder problem.

I think a lot of people out there, and maybe this is just my little slice of the universe, but I think a lot of people out there take the perspective of like, oh my God, everyone has ADHD these days.

And these kids are so lazy and they don't want to work and they're attached to their phone and like kind of like doubling down on it being the kids' problems.

What do you think that that factor of society is getting wrong about how these kids and why these kids might be struggling nowadays?

I can be blunt here? Absolutely,

please be.

I

think the first thing that if you're the person in the kind of higher up on the hierarchy in the sense that you're the parent, of a child or or you're the manager of of a bunch of employees you actually have to first look at yourself and acknowledge that you're working pretty hard to do as well as you're doing um and you know presumably you became like a leader in a company or you chose to have children because you felt like kind of got my shit together like i'm good enough to be able to like Help other people, you know? Like, hopefully, those were good choices you made.

But it's still, you got to remember, you know, and I think people sometimes forget that what they've gotten good at was not something that they, you know, it just came easily.

Now, it does come more easily for some than others.

So I think that...

I just think that that's the first thing is that people forget, you know, people forget.

And especially with kids, you forget what it was like to be a kid.

But even when you're like a professional, you can forget what it was like being on the front lines.

It's not that you're a jerk.

It's just that you're in your new space.

And it's hard to just hold on to that, like, what that experience was.

You know, it's one of the reasons why I continue to coach, even though I'm running a company.

It's like, I want to remember, like, oh, yeah, coaching can be hard.

Yeah.

It's, you know, not like, oh, well, they have the easy job.

I have the hard job.

Right.

So I think that that really is the first thing is a point of like empathy and that it's it's not people are mean.