When You’re Not Sorry

So what is the biblical route? in a relationship where a person thinks you should apologize for something you said or did that you don't think you should apologize for, or to put it another way, what you do when a person says they are offended or hurt, wounded by something you said, and your assessment is they shouldn't have been offended.

They shouldn't have been hurt.

In other words, They think the blame lies with you and your insensitivity and your harshness.

And you think the blame lies with them and their

excessive sensitivities.

So what do you do?

Well, let's get one principle really clear from Jesus in Matthew 5, 23 and 24.

If you are offering your gift at the altar and there, remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift at the altar and go.

First, be reconciled to your brother.

Then come and offer your gift so clearly.

If we have wronged someone by doing or saying something so that they have a, mark these words, truly legitimate claim that we did wrong, our whole disposition should be to humble ourselves, admit that we've done wrong, ask for forgiveness, be reconciled.

Quick.

That's hard.

It's beautiful.

It's necessary in real life if relationships are going to survive and thrive.

But it raises this question.

Did Jesus mean that any time someone has something against us, we've done wrong and should apologize? No, that's not the case.

It doesn't mean that.

And we know that from other parts of the Gospels.

Listen to Jesus when he is accused of insulting, offending lawyers.

This is Luke 11, 44 to 46.

Woe to you Pharisees, for you're like unmarked graves, and people walk over them without knowing it.

And one of the lawyers answered him, teacher, in saying these things, you insult us.

Also, and he said, woe to you lawyers also, for you load people with burdens hard to bear, and you yourselves do not touch the burdens with one of your fingers.

In other words, the fact that you are insulted, Mr.