Around the Circle | An Enneagram Channel

Around the Circle | An Enneagram Channel

Enneagram and the Shape of Our Sex Lives | Dr. Sam E Greenberg (5) and Lyndsey Fraser LMFT (9)

Jul 23, 2026 · 1 hr 6 min · 12 segments

Sex is rarely just about sex. In this conversation, Jeff sits down with sexuality researcher **Dr. Sam Greenberg** and certified sex therapist **Lyndsey Fraser** to explore how the Enneagram shapes…

Sex is rarely just about sex. In this conversation, Jeff sits down with sexuality researcher **Dr. Sam Greenberg** and certified sex therapist **Lyndsey Fraser** to explore how the Enneagram shapes intimacy, desire, communication, and long-term relationships. Moving beyond stereotypes, they discuss why so many couples struggle with mismatched desire, why "low desire" is often something else entirely, and how each Enneagram type approaches vulnerability, attraction, and connection in distinctive ways. The episode takes a deep dive into two common pairings—**Eight/Nine** and **Four/Six**—examining the ways these couples pursue intimacy, avoid rejection, communicate desire, and unknowingly frustrate one another. Along the way, they explore the roles of trust, shame, healthy sexual development, gender expectations, instincts, and why understanding motive can transform the way partners experience one another. Rather than offering one-size-fits-all advice, this conversation argues that healthy sexuality begins with self-awareness. The Enneagram becomes more than a personality system—it becomes a language for expressing desire, understanding your partner, and discovering what intimacy actually asks of us. Connect with Sam HERE and Lyndsey HERE Comment on the episode HERE Our Prior Episdoes on Sex and Enneagram are Here and Here.

Sex is rarely just about sex. In this conversation, Jeff sits down with sexuality researcher **Dr. Sam Greenberg** and certified sex therapist **Lyndsey Fraser** to explore how the Enneagram shapes…

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Announcements & Promotions0:02 – 2:19

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Hey friends, it's Jeff.

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We're celebrating here at Around the Circle.

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Our Start Here podcast, which helps folks find their type, has been the number one Enneagram podcast on iTunes all year.

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This podcast channel just passed 6,000 subscribers and 2 million downloads, and we're closing in on 1,000 free members at aroundthecircle.org. More than this, This is the one year anniversary of our book.

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Around the Circle is out on Amazon.

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Kindle version is just nine bucks.

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Audio version has all kinds of extras, or you can get the uber fancy print version, which has our mistyping guide.

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But more than this, we're moving to want to connect with you more.

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Real Enneagram work, we have been very aware recently, real Enneagram work often requires real conversations.

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And so as we enter the next season, we're gonna focus on creating more online panels and workshops.

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So this month, we're talking with members about coping style and how each of the types solves problems on Mondays.

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Our second Saturday workshop, We'll begin hitting a new topic in August when we have 30 or 40 people assemble.

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And every Tuesday night, we continue to have our reading room, which presently we are wrapping up Brene Brown's Atlas of the Heart.

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It's on emotion and exploring how emotions overlap with the Enneagram.

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Also next month, and this is new, I'm going to begin speaking exclusively with men about their experience of the Enneagram.

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We don't often hear from men reflecting on their inner lives in these spaces, but those who do engage the Enneagram often have extraordinary stories to tell.

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So I'm going to try and get men together, talk shop.

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So if you want to connect, very easy.

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Go to aroundthecircle.org. sign up for a free membership and you will get all of our announcements all the links to all of our free stuff or if it's time for you and your family to do some serious work become a 20 member all the links to our online classes and conversations will open up for you and we would love to meet you that's what i got for this month i'm jeff may all good things be yours All right, friends, this is Around the Circle.

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