Is she a jerk for attending her coworkers birthday party?
Oct 13, 2026 · 20 min · 16 segments
She is caught in the middle and doesn't understand why they would be mad at her. Is she the jerk?
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Oct 13, 2026 · 20 min · 16 segments
She is caught in the middle and doesn't understand why they would be mad at her. Is she the jerk?
All right.
Sometimes you slide into the DMs and you want to be anonymous.
I got you.
Don't worry.
Am I the jerk for going to the birthday party? Hold on.
Of course not.
It involves your coworkers and some get along and some don't.
Oh.
so you know how it is people get real clicky at work real catty you might be the
jerk okay i got it i got
like i can tell who secretly loves me and who openly loves me based on my birthday because when my birthday comes around people will say happy birthday birthday to me on our company slack and then some will privately message me and i'm like oh you didn't want anyone to see you say happy birthday you're being clicky
you're being clicky i'm on to you uh-huh yeah
Yeah, I see you.
So it says, Allie and Deezy, I wish to remain anonymous.
Here goes.
My birthday is coming up, and I was invited by two coworkers for a birthday dinner.
One of them no longer works there, but we still keep in touch.
And the other one, well, she still works there.
We still work together.
Here's where the dilemma comes in.
My other coworkers that I'm close with found out about the dinner and are disappointed at me, in all caps, that they were not invited.
Including one that doesn't even get along with one of the hosts, you could say.
I didn't host this dinner, and I find it a little annoying that they're mad at me when I'm the one who was invited.
I didn't host this dinner.
All right.
Sometimes you slide into the DMs and you want to be anonymous.
I got you.
Don't worry.
Am I the jerk for going to the birthday party? Hold on.
Of course not.
It involves your coworkers and some get along and some don't.
Oh.
so you know how it is people get real clicky at work real catty you might be the
jerk okay i got it i got
like i can tell who secretly loves me and who openly loves me based on my birthday because when my birthday comes around people will say happy birthday birthday to me on our company slack and then some will privately message me and i'm like oh you didn't want anyone to see you say happy birthday you're being clicky
you're being clicky i'm on to you uh-huh yeah
Yeah, I see you.
So it says, Allie and Deezy, I wish to remain anonymous.
Here goes.
My birthday is coming up, and I was invited by two coworkers for a birthday dinner.
One of them no longer works there, but we still keep in touch.
And the other one, well, she still works there.
We still work together.
Here's where the dilemma comes in.
My other coworkers that I'm close with found out about the dinner and are disappointed at me, in all caps, that they were not invited.
Including one that doesn't even get along with one of the hosts, you could say.
I didn't host this dinner, and I find it a little annoying that they're mad at me when I'm the one who was invited.
I didn't host this dinner.
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