BPD Rage: Why Anger in Borderline Personality Disorder Feels Uncontrollable and How Loved Ones Can Calm It

A lot of it can be fueled by marijuana or other kind of drugs.

So If you're in this situation and your loved one is saying a bunch of stuff that doesn't make any sense, it can be just intense emotion, but sometimes it does get in the level of psychosis where it just seems like completely... not attached to reality.

So you could have different levels of this BPD rage.

And it's really, really tough because it feels like a bomb's going off.

And sometimes it just feels like maybe like a machine gun coming out, bam, bam, bam, bam, anger, anger, anger.

And nothing you're saying is working, nothing you're doing.

And you're like, wow, my loved one is like, crazy.

And I, you know, I don't know what to do.

I don't know what to say.

Am I being abused? Do I leave? Like, what is going on here? And then they might pretend, not even pretend, but they might act like nothing happened the next day.

When they're feeling better, it's like it's all gone.

Maybe they throw things, maybe they destroy property, maybe they hurt themselves or hurt you.

But the rage in borderline personality disorder, also in trauma and addiction and a lot of other disorders, that tends to be what scares loved ones the most.

You have other symptoms of BPD like They have a hard time knowing who they are, like having a strong sense of identity or depression, stuff like that.

And that is really concerning, but people really want help around the rage.

So that's why I'm making this.

Again, it might be a little bit of a rehashing of other topics that I've talked about a lot before, but it's still tough.

It's still just... hard what i'll talk about today is what is up with bpd rage why does it feel different than normal anger um and you know the mechanisms behind it why it's so intense why does it feel so uncontrollable and then i'll talk about different strategies that you can use when your loved one with bpd is raging at you um and thinking about this topic is it's really interesting because I was thinking about the times that I've worked with people with BPD and there's just been... just anger.

I mean, it's like a switch that's flipped.

They could be so sweet and so scared and so sad and tender and gentle and harmless.

And then suddenly they change into this demon.

I mean, that's the thing that was the most scary with not only, I've talked about my mom a lot with alcoholism, but other family members too that struggled with addiction, things like that, where even friends too um where you just see like a change in their eyes right it's it's it's not just like someone gets pissed off or angry but they go from this gentle soul to like white rage and it is like daggers coming out and the kind of person that you're like whoa this is like a completely different person than the person who was just here a moment ago, right? That's the thing that's the most scary.

It kind of seems like a demon is like coming out at them like the exorcist.

That is the most alarming and disturbing thing about BPD sometimes.

It's like that flip, the Jekyll and Hyde moment.