How to Stop People Pleasing and Set Boundaries Without Feeling Like the Bad Guy with Amy Armstrong

What if the version of you everyone calls "the rock" is actually the version that's slowly disappearing? In this episode, Evan sits down with **Amy Armstrong**, divorce and co-parenting coach and creator of the **Co-Parenting Power Method for Moms**, to unpack how she went from curled up on her bathroom floor after losing her marriage and her mother in the same season... to building a life on her own terms. Amy spent **45 years** being the calm one, the agreeable one, the performer who fooled everyone (including herself). Then everything cracked at once. And instead of breaking her, it woke her up. If you've ever felt like you're living a life that looks fine from the outside but feels empty on the inside, this one's for you. **In this episode, you'll learn:** - **Why people pleasing is actually a survival skill** (and why beating yourself up about it keeps you stuck) - The first step to becoming your authentic self... and it's NOT what most coaches tell you - How Amy turned the **worst season of her life** (divorce + losing her mom in 3 weeks) into the moment "the lights came on" - **The Power of Choice:** the simple shift that means your circumstances never get to define you again - Why she calls her house fire a **"welcome fire"** and the surprising lesson about asking for help - What coaching does that **therapy, books, and ChatGPT can't:** rebuilding trust in YOURSELF - Amy's **"leap off the page" method** for knowing exactly which decision is right for you - **"Logic poisoning":** why thinking your way through everything is keeping you stuck - The **Pro-Me, Not Anti-You** framework for handling provoking texts from your ex (without taking the bait) - The **controversial truth about being "right"** in divorce... and why proving it can put your kids in harm's way - **How to set firm boundaries without sounding cold or rude** (Amy gives word-for-word examples) - The genius **"Carol trick"** Amy taught her kids so they never got stuck in the middle of the divorce - What to do **tonight** if this episode hit a nerve: the thought-feeling-action framework **About the Guest:** **Amy Armstrong** is a divorce and co-parenting coach and creator of the **Co-Parenting Power Method for Moms**, helping women navigate separation and high-conflict co-parenting without losing themselves. After surviving divorce, losing her mom in three weeks, and a house fire all in one season, she coaches from one core belief: **circumstances don't define you, your choices do**.  **Connect with Amy:** **Website**:  The Center For Family Resolution **LinkedIn**: Amy Armstrong **Instagram**: Amy Armstrong **Tiktok**: Amy Armstrong **Youtube**: Amy Armstrong