what do you mean by that? And why is that such an important shift to make in your mind when it comes to sex?

It's really important for people of all genders, but especially for women.

Right.

Like if if we feel any sort of pressure to perform or pressure to do something we don't want to do, whether it's intentional or not, it's going to shut the door to sex and intimacy or women.

Sometimes I hear this a lot is like women will have sex that they don't really want to have.

They feel obligated.

It's their duty.

you mean.