So what determines whether a relationship can recover from infidelity? And what does genuine repair actually look like?

So an affair doesn't automatically end the relationship and it doesn't automatically make one stronger either, but I've seen both happen.

What determines the outcome is less about the affair itself and more about how partners respond afterwards.

So repair definitely begins with full accountability, not being defensive, not minimizing, not blaming the relationship or the betrayed partner.

You have to be willing to say, I'm choosing you I hurt you and I'm willing to do the work.

But repair involves all participating parties, not just the one that was unfaithful.

The betrayed partner will likely need time to grieve.

So what do you say to someone who feels betrayed? negative about the act itself towards their partner and also who feels like now you just need to tell me everything.

And so how do we, Work on some of those different levels of desire in those

longer term relationships.

It's such an important question, right? The most common thing that I think people present with is most common.

Yeah.

Desire discrepancy.

Right.

Nothing's wrong with either.

So what have you found in your practice about social media and all that kind of stuff? Is there a decrease in confidence and