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if there is such a thing, because everybody grieves differently, and everybody grieves every loss differently.

And in a typical grieving process- At those early days, those early weeks, those early months, we call our grief acute.

It's where the, the volume is up, we're living our life through the lens of loss, and this sense of their absence is never too far from us.

And gradually, over time, as we express our grief and engage with the grieving process, um, over time we begin to carry this.

We begin to learn how to adapt to our loss and how to adjust to life without our loved one.

Sure.

Because, you know, you do not want to kind of wreck your own life saving other people's lives.

Well, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross did amazing work in the area of dying and death.

She actually developed these stages for people who were dying, that when they learned that they had a terminal illness, you know, they went through different emotions, including denial and bargaining and anger.

but not necessarily all of them and not in any prescriptive way.

And then some other person decided this was applicable to grief, but actually it is not a theory that we use at all.

There's absolutely zero evidence for stages model of grieving.

It suggests that grief is linear, you know, that we have different emotions to go through and then we're done.

Let's move on and look at attachment theory, Liz, if that's OK, and just how attachment theory informs our understanding of sudden loss.