How would you help a couple like that?

First, they need to get clear on what are their needs because many clients who are in that position that we're talking about that are used to sacrificing, they've shut off the volume on their intuition and their needs.

And so part of what I help them get back in touch with is, what is your need? Even if your partner can't do it, I need you to start asking for it again because your partner may not be aware of it.

You have... decided that you don't have it.

And so we're not starting in a place where you can figure out what your boundary is around.

I know we throw that word around boundary a lot, but really is, is this going to be too much of a sacrifice? If it's not too much of a sacrifice and you want to do it, great.

But if it's, you're doing it to sacrifice yourself because you think your partner's going to leave or that we won't have an okay relationship, we're already out of balance.

Well, it's