Yeah, I think that's quite broad, but I don't know.

Yeah, I think it's I mean, I guess I got really lucky that my mom was very intentional about the kind of content that I watched growing up, because a lot of the times the depictions for like black women falling in love or like being in romantic relationships like was was very abusive or that this expectation that like you can only be desired for your body, like very sexual in nature and like that's.

not the way that my mom wanted me to view myself growing up.

So she was very selective in terms of what I saw growing up.

But I think, yeah, like a lot of the time when we're, when we're talking about like popular representation for, for, for black women within media, especially when it comes to dating and romantic relationships, like it's, you have a lot of like the like the disposable black girlfriend trope and like all of these things that we are the fun time and not like the long time and that can really take a toll on you and that's what that is all you're seeing like that's all you're known for and also then seeing that manifest like in your real life the way around you like knowing that when I'm dating oh okay I have to be very conscious or like just not even expecting them to really like you back I think that's a big thing

Well, are there any red flags that you do like specific red flags like when you are dating or when you've been in a relationship? Is there something where you're like, OK, if they do this, say this, act this way or make me feel like this, that is like absolutely a red flag, in my opinion.

For me, one that always kind of like puts pause is like sexual comments, like comments, compliments, however you want to phrase it, like very early on.

Like we've just met, we're just talking and you're like, oh my God, you're so sexy.