That's where we were, where I cut you off before the break.

This truth that we're rediscovering right now in formation, and actually in our broader culture, is something St. Thomas talked about.

Of, of, uh, sexual sins, uh, habitual sexual sins rob us of inner strength, and it's the strength that we need for our own agency, for our freedom.

And, and we thrive as human beings when we are able to use our freedom to love.

This is, uh, a growing, uh ...

When we turn away from this, uh, generosity of self towards others, when we turn away from, uh, uh, intimacy and meaningful relationships with one another, it's at for us psychologically.

We're not wired for that.

And those very things that held you captive prior now become the, uh, power source almost, if you will, the rocket fuel for holiness.

Mm-hmm.

Um, first is I, I think that with any discernment, but especially this discernment, uh, establishing a routine of, of daily prayer and, and, um, and daily Mass, if it's at all possible, um, is kind of number one.

And then number two, I would say frequent confession, uh, that, uh, you, uh...

It's very hard to discern if your conscience isn't clear.

And then the third one, and this is, uh, maybe a little bit more controversial, but I think you kinda need to, uh, take stock about who you're hanging out with.

Uh, there will be friends who help you with your vocation and support you, and other friends who just don't get it, and they're not going to help you, and you're going to have to kind of maybe pull back from friends and sometimes even family members who, um, are distracting you from what God is asking you at, at this time.

That, that would be m- uh, the, the three that immediately come to me, uh, Father Jesse, but what do you think?

Mm