Have there been afternoons in your house where you've turned the TV on just to buy yourself a little breathing room? The kids settle, the house goes quiet, and for a moment you feel like you might actually get through the afternoon in one piece.
And then you have to turn it off.
And in about 30 seconds, everything unravels.
The tears, the bargaining, the just one more episode that turns into a negotiation that you were not remotely prepared to have.
If that sounds familiar, you are not alone, and I get it.
Today we're talking about what's actually happening when kids fall apart after screens go off, and more importantly, what we can do to make those transitions a whole lot smoother.
But before we get into the why and the how, I want to say something first.
It's really important.
Using screens is not a parenting failure.
It's not something to feel guilty about.
Screens are a tool and most of us use them because we're human and we are tired and sometimes we genuinely need a moment to ourselves.
The meltdown that follows when the screen goes off isn't because we did something wrong.
It's not because our child is badly behaved.
And it's definitely not because we've somehow done lasting damage by letting them watch Bluey three times in a row.
It's actually a very predictable response.
And once we understand what's going on underneath it, it becomes a lot less frightening and a lot more manageable.
Have there been afternoons in your house where you've turned the TV on just to buy yourself a little breathing room? The kids settle, the house goes quiet, and for a moment you feel like you might actually get through the afternoon in one piece.
And then you have to turn it off.
And in about 30 seconds, everything unravels.
The tears, the bargaining, the just one more episode that turns into a negotiation that you were not remotely prepared to have.
If that sounds familiar, you are not alone, and I get it.
Today we're talking about what's actually happening when kids fall apart after screens go off, and more importantly, what we can do to make those transitions a whole lot smoother.
But before we get into the why and the how, I want to say something first.
It's really important.
Using screens is not a parenting failure.
It's not something to feel guilty about.
Screens are a tool and most of us use them because we're human and we are tired and sometimes we genuinely need a moment to ourselves.
The meltdown that follows when the screen goes off isn't because we did something wrong.
It's not because our child is badly behaved.
And it's definitely not because we've somehow done lasting damage by letting them watch Bluey three times in a row.
It's actually a very predictable response.
And once we understand what's going on underneath it, it becomes a lot less frightening and a lot more manageable.
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