Your Anxiety Toolkit - Practical Skills for Anxiety, Panic & Depression
Jun 10, 2026 · 27 min · 11 segments
In this episode, I share the three hidden ways anxiety can quietly take over your relationships, and how CBT, ERP, and ACT can help you build deeper connection without letting anxiety call the shots.
[gentle music] Here is what nobody tells you about anxiety and your relationships.
No, instead, anxiety mischievously builds a system inside the things you love the most, and where it plays out the most is inside your relationships.
It gives you a strict set of rules, patterns, habits, things you feel like you have to do, things your partner has to do, all designed, without anyone realizing it, to manage and control your anxiety.
This is the thing getting in the way of you having the relationships you want.
Now, I don't want you to feel any shame or judgment from me, [laughs] especially from, from me, because I know, I've lived this too, absolutely, for years, and I did not see how much anxiety was impacting my relationship until my hubby came to me and said, "Kim, I love you, but I think it's time that you get some help." And if you are watching this, there is a real chance that you are living right now that same way.
Now, before we move forward, I want us to hold ourselves in a lot of compassion, because this might be a hard conversation for you, as long as you know that you are not broken or that you're not a problem that needs solving.
But what you do need to know is that anxiety is very, very good at what it does, and that is what we're gonna get into today.
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[gentle music] Here is what nobody tells you about anxiety and your relationships.
No, instead, anxiety mischievously builds a system inside the things you love the most, and where it plays out the most is inside your relationships.
It gives you a strict set of rules, patterns, habits, things you feel like you have to do, things your partner has to do, all designed, without anyone realizing it, to manage and control your anxiety.
This is the thing getting in the way of you having the relationships you want.
Now, I don't want you to feel any shame or judgment from me, [laughs] especially from, from me, because I know, I've lived this too, absolutely, for years, and I did not see how much anxiety was impacting my relationship until my hubby came to me and said, "Kim, I love you, but I think it's time that you get some help." And if you are watching this, there is a real chance that you are living right now that same way.
Now, before we move forward, I want us to hold ourselves in a lot of compassion, because this might be a hard conversation for you, as long as you know that you are not broken or that you're not a problem that needs solving.
But what you do need to know is that anxiety is very, very good at what it does, and that is what we're gonna get into today.