🎤 PODCAST: Sexless ~ My fiancé was raped and now hates sex.

What if you are dating somebody and you're at an age where intimacy is appropriate and you decide you want to marry this person and the person doesn't like sex? How do you deal with that? And you do.

Is that a deal breaker or what? Let's listen to this from Andy and see what you think.

Dear Dr. Kenner, My fiancé of four months, Mary, won't have sex with me.

She said she doesn't get turned on.

She says she loves me but hates sex.

We only had sex twice and that was at the beginning of the relationship.

She has pleaded with me several times not to leave her.

She believes that her desire not to have sex or hatred of sex will go away.

Now it obviously won't go away unless you do a lot of thinking, Mary.

Here is the very sad part.

She was raped when she was 11 years old, and she believes that's the cause of her problem.

We want to get married in one month's time.

What can we do about the problem, Andy? Andy, consider postponing your wedding.

This is such a serious decision you're making.

This is a life-changing decision to get married, and you both need time to solve this problem because this is a potential deal-breaker.

What happens if you get married and it doesn't go away? She doesn't like sex for life.

That's it.

That's end of story, honey.

What then? You have a choice.

You can live a sexless life.

You can cheat on her, have affairs.

You can use porn.

You can do things that you're not going to be that happy with.

Or you can divorce.

You can leave her.