🎤 PODCAST: Sex as a Sacrifice ~ I can't get romantic with men I care about.

Here is a question from Kelly.

It's a question about sexuality, and see what your gut response is.

"Hi, Dr. Kenner.

I find it difficult to be sexually intimate with men I am serious about.

This has stopped me from being able to form relationships because I push them away.

I can cuddle up to them, I can hold hands, I can kiss them without it being a problem, but when it comes to having sex, I can't do it.

I become embarrassed.

However, I have no problem having sex on a one-night stand basis or with someone wh- wh- whom I'm not in a relationship with.

It would be great if you could enlighten me on what the problem may be.

Thank you, Kelly." So I can hear the problem.

Why you're...

Why are you pushing away men that you, you are attracted to, men that you want to have a long-term relationship with, potential lifetime partners? And why do you respond so freely with men on one-night stands, men that you don't value as much? And you had a key word in there, why do you feel embarrassed? So obviously, the only person, Kelly, who can answer these questions accurately is yourself by asking them to yourself, by just taking those questions, writing them down, and journaling.

However, I am going to give you some leads, some things you can think about.

Some of these may be way off base.

Some of these may be, uh, right in the middle of the target.

Uh, why would anybody act like that? Why do you push away a guy you're attracted to and you, and really want a serious relationship with? Well, I think the number one suspect, the number one killer is-