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And here's a little more from Dr. Kenner.

We can't go around measuring our goodness by what we don't do, by what we deny ourselves, what we resist and who we exclude.

I think we've got to measure goodness by what we embrace, what we create and who we include.

And that is from Chocolat, a phenomenal movie.

And you think of your own definition of goodness.

Is goodness to you the equivalent of duty, giving up, sacrifice? Does it bring a heaviness, a cloud over your head when you think, oh, I've got to be good? or I wasn't good today, and you just feel like goodness is this weight, this anchor you have to drag around life, and if you could only shed that anchor, you could be happy.

You could be free.

You could do whatever the heck you want and just really enjoy your life.

Well, what if your definition of goodness is off-base? What if it is duty-based, sacrifice-based, non-you-based? Now, is the alternative to goodness...

Me only based, my way or the highway based, manipulate, connive, cheat, steal, lie, do whatever you need to to have a little bit of happiness in your life.

And the answer to that, you know, is no, a resounding no.

That is self-destructive.

And goodness properly... formed, the concept properly formed, means it's good for your long-range happiness.

It's rational.

It connects with the facts of reality.

What are your values? What are your hobbies? Who do you enjoy in your life? And what do you want to create? What career do you want to go into? What friends do you enjoy? What family do you enjoy? And do you have to feel obligated to anything you don't enjoy? Stay tuned.

My show is The Rational Basis of Happiness, and we talk about goodness, your goodness, your happiness with no ball and chain, with no anchor around your leg.

This is happiness for you.

I'm Dr. Ellen Kenner, and my show is The Rational Basis of Happiness.

I'm a clinical psychologist.

And here's a little more from Dr. Kenner.

We can't go around measuring our goodness by what we don't do, by what we deny ourselves, what we resist and who we exclude.

I think we've got to measure goodness by what we embrace, what we create and who we include.

And that is from Chocolat, a phenomenal movie.

And you think of your own definition of goodness.

Is goodness to you the equivalent of duty, giving up, sacrifice? Does it bring a heaviness, a cloud over your head when you think, oh, I've got to be good? or I wasn't good today, and you just feel like goodness is this weight, this anchor you have to drag around life, and if you could only shed that anchor, you could be happy.

You could be free.

You could do whatever the heck you want and just really enjoy your life.

Well, what if your definition of goodness is off-base? What if it is duty-based, sacrifice-based, non-you-based? Now, is the alternative to goodness...

Me only based, my way or the highway based, manipulate, connive, cheat, steal, lie, do whatever you need to to have a little bit of happiness in your life.

And the answer to that, you know, is no, a resounding no.

That is self-destructive.

And goodness properly... formed, the concept properly formed, means it's good for your long-range happiness.

It's rational.

It connects with the facts of reality.

What are your values? What are your hobbies? Who do you enjoy in your life? And what do you want to create? What career do you want to go into? What friends do you enjoy? What family do you enjoy? And do you have to feel obligated to anything you don't enjoy? Stay tuned.

My show is The Rational Basis of Happiness, and we talk about goodness, your goodness, your happiness with no ball and chain, with no anchor around your leg.

This is happiness for you.

I'm Dr. Ellen Kenner, and my show is The Rational Basis of Happiness.

I'm a clinical psychologist.